Achromalia wrote:
-Remi wrote:
[ Sebastian ] wrote:
-Remi wrote:
Sometimes, I wonder how you all are friends.
I'm not friends with anyone here. I don't like making online friends after what happened with me and Roboboy013.
Honestly, not having online friends isn't a bad thing.
With the right lack of discipline, online friendships turn into online obsessions or relationships, which are cringe.
That's only with some people though (Valorant Players)
I have online friends, but I wouldn't care about them like I care about a real friend, and I'm fortunate to be surrounded by friends I look up to, in the real world.
mmyeah this is a fair point too, i forgot that the real world exists and that people are very capable of prioritizing tangible friendships over digital friendships... so your approach with vulnerability and investment in friendships will probably vary from what someone like me might make of it.
digital application of socialization is pretty much my only world of communication, so take that suggestion with this in mind, i'm pretty immersed in the internet over anything else and will probably dissociate and hold a grossly out-of-focus pov irl. i value digital friends equally highly, and i'm extremely preferential to digital communication because i operate best that way out of convenience of access and communication, as well as my capacity to integrate more sensibly because i only have to think for a moment and type, instead of immediately processing and expressing/emoting my feelings/thoughts, and using my body and voice to communicate (which can be very draining).
...oversharing for context aside, i trust you'll manage that some way or another.
Though I still prefer IRL friends, I understand what you mean.
Despite having many friends, I have an issue with stuttering and thinking of sentences cohesively. In the online world, it's not as big of an issue, as I can think harder, and edit my words. Online, the only thing that displays is your personality, and it's harder to be judged, as people don't get to look at you. This is why I think it's easier to make and maintain friends in the digital realm.
But I've come to learn that in order to become more confident in real life, and quickly prove wrong the people who judge me based on appearance, I have to get my priorities straight. I should spend and prioritise my 'skills' in the real world, and maintain what relationships I have. Online friends can only take you so far, usually, they turnover faster than real friends do.
Of course, this is coming from the perspective of a 16 year old. I recall having a discussion on this exact forum about the topic of friends, and I've been told by Abraker and many others, that you lose a lot of friends after University, as you all go your own ways in life. With this, I understand why an adult would put more value onto online friends.