I've seen so many and i just don't know what to think. Can i get some people's opinion of online relationships and what not?
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Topic Starter
Love knows no boundaries. Distance shouldn't affect whether you love someone or not.
Treat this seriously -- flaming and/or trolling will be punished. Moved to GD.
Treat this seriously -- flaming and/or trolling will be punished. Moved to GD.
Seph
Love is love, how it's expressed shouldn't matter.
You get together because you like each other, right? That's essentially what the core of the relationship is, there are ways to spend time and have fun together over a distance as well.
I'm not particularly fond of it all, but each to their own.
You get together because you like each other, right? That's essentially what the core of the relationship is, there are ways to spend time and have fun together over a distance as well.
I'm not particularly fond of it all, but each to their own.
Topic Starter
Well maybe i find it stupid cause of the one expirience ive had with it and it showed how easily a person can be..... idk manipulated/lied to over the internet so idk
People are just as often lied to and manipulated in regular relationships. It's just seemingly easier to do so when you got nothing to fear and nobody to be ashamed in front of, and as such that's quite a general misconception but is certainly not the case.
Trust is paramount in a LDR. Don't get into one if you don't trust the person you're with. Don't be so easy to hand over your trust in something this serious.jackishere wrote:
Well maybe i find it stupid cause of the one expirience ive had with it and it showed how easily a person can be..... idk manipulated/lied to over the internet so idk
Seph
Never generalize. Just because this one did this to you doesn't mean everyone else will. And being hurt is normal, its part of life. Its up to you whether you learn from your past mistakes or whatjackishere wrote:
Well maybe i find it stupid cause of the one expirience ive had with it and it showed how easily a person can be..... idk manipulated/lied to over the internet so idk
Topic Starter
Yea i guess youre right, i shouldnt generalize it cause of one expirience. Maybe i was just unlucky or stupid at the time, oh well the past is the past. Gotta look forward to the future.
been there, done that
my vote goes to "neveragain"
my vote goes to "neveragain"
Most of LD relationships didn't go very well, based on my experience and my friends experience
but if it's love , then what should i say? You're free to love anyone , in real life or online forums.
Sometimes Love are more complicated than any things in this world
but if it's love , then what should i say? You're free to love anyone , in real life or online forums.
Sometimes Love are more complicated than any things in this world
Oh well, I Won't even try to explain my point
tl;dr 90% of osu! relationships ends up with break up. And most of people here are liars. But maybe it's just my country. Or me. Probably me.
tl;dr 90% of osu! relationships ends up with break up. And most of people here are liars. But maybe it's just my country. Or me. Probably me.
I'd say that estimate applies to real life relationships as well. It's more a matter of that majority of users on here are young and delusional.
silmarilen wrote:
start reading from here
Hope you know the same thing goes for irl relationships as well.Marcin wrote:
tl;dr 90% of osu! relationships ends up with break up. And most of people here are liars.
More importantly, I do wonder why online relationships between users occur with such prevalence on these forums. I haven't seen it happen like this on others.
It's quite common on facepunch as well, just generally not flaunted as much.
Forums are for discussion, most commonly just for topics revolving around the subject (game, tracker, software whatever).
Unlike those, osu! is more like adating service socializing general.
Forums are for discussion, most commonly just for topics revolving around the subject (game, tracker, software whatever).
Unlike those, osu! is more like a
I'd say it's easier to ignore jarring flaws while online, which tends to lead to bad things in the long run.
Not a fan of online relationships myself.
Not a fan of online relationships myself.
Yeah, there are not that much people left who actually play osu! without actually talking to anyone.boat wrote:
osu! is more like adating servicesocializing general.
At first it starts like
"sup :3"
Then it goes like
"silly jokes and stupid conversations"
"real life problems"
"love problems"
"hey we understand each other very well"
"when i open osu! i seek for you all the time"
"i think we should start 'going out' even if it will be hard, it will be okay"
"i get bored of you"
"other person understands me better"
"you are talking with other girls/boys, that girl/boy is bitch/bastard"
"meh lets just break up"
"we can be friends"
*they become friends*
*go to top and start reading again but this time it happens with different people"
Catface: The gateway drug.UnderminE wrote:
At first it starts like
"sup :3"
there is also the on-off-type, in which two people break up and get together again and again, both of them refusing to see the sillyness and uselessness behind their actions.UnderminE wrote:
Yeah, there are not that much people left who actually play osu! without actually talking to anyone.boat wrote:
osu! is more like adating servicesocializing general.
At first it starts like
"sup :3"
Then it goes like
"silly jokes and stupid conversations"
"real life problems"
"love problems"
"hey we understand each other very well"
"when i open osu! i seek for you all the time"
"i think we should start 'going out' even if it will be hard, it will be okay"
"i get bored of you"
"other person understands me better"
"you are talking with other girls/boys, that girl/boy is bitch/bastard"
"meh lets just break up"
"we can be friends"
*they become friends*
*go to top and start reading again but this time it happens with different people"
it's probably the saddest kind, since both parts waste a lot of time and emotions for something that never should have worked in the first place.
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my standpoint is that they are possible, but they are, like every long distance relationship, really difficult. not seeing your loved one at least regulary really affects how you build up feelings and trust. then again, love is a thing that just happens without conscious control, so you can't really blame anyone for falling in love. saying that somebody is stupid for falling in love is really unfair, since you're not to blame for falling in love... at least not fully.
I have a lot of contacts online but I've never experienced anything of this sort. Personally I don't really mind, people are free to do what they want and how they want. I don't think I'm the sort of guy who'd enjoy or get even remotely involved in a relationship of that scale online.
Real life relationships are so much more frustrating. People can't mind their own business, start to spread rumours, get in between you two, etc. Having it online and keeping it a secret from the community is so much more private and fulfilling. I can't deal with real life relationships, but even online, it still feels a bit pointless. You can't really do much except chat, video call, so it seems like nothing but a glorified friendship. I'd also rather have many friendships than one dedicated relationship, I've learned through experience that you shouldn't put all your eggs into one basket, orz.
Why Would Someone Create An Online Love It Will Just Hurt You Trust Me :3
On The Topic : I Dont Have Any
Ok Love~
On The Topic : I Dont Have Any
Ok Love~
It's "love" not relationship what those people do online
online relationship sucks real bad and I strongly suggest to not be in one
if your view of Love is something that when you fail once you're never gonna try again then just go cry in a corner and whine about how you're forever alone
I hate people who don't take relationships seriously, both in real life and online. And I hate how they don't put any effort in relationships.
I hate people who're like 'ohmygod i love blah blah so much' but after a few months/weeks/days they're just gonna break up because "something went wrong".
Just because when one thing is broken you're gonna have to replace it already with something new; finding a new one takes more time and effort.
I feel bad for those who take relationships seriously but are not taken seriously by others.
To those who don't take relationships seriously, PLEASE, just don't be in one, you are just wasting the energy of those who are willing to give anything for love and you do not deserve any of it.
if your view of Love is something that when you fail once you're never gonna try again then just go cry in a corner and whine about how you're forever alone
I hate people who don't take relationships seriously, both in real life and online. And I hate how they don't put any effort in relationships.
I hate people who're like 'ohmygod i love blah blah so much' but after a few months/weeks/days they're just gonna break up because "something went wrong".
Just because when one thing is broken you're gonna have to replace it already with something new; finding a new one takes more time and effort.
I feel bad for those who take relationships seriously but are not taken seriously by others.
To those who don't take relationships seriously, PLEASE, just don't be in one, you are just wasting the energy of those who are willing to give anything for love and you do not deserve any of it.
Why not?
You love him/her, and she/he loves you. If you guys are really serious about it and are willing to go through problems with each other, then I see no reason why anybody should stop you nor judge you for what you're doing. In fact, I admire people who are serious about LDR. Not only they have patience, but they also have lots of courage.
You love him/her, and she/he loves you. If you guys are really serious about it and are willing to go through problems with each other, then I see no reason why anybody should stop you nor judge you for what you're doing. In fact, I admire people who are serious about LDR. Not only they have patience, but they also have lots of courage.
Courage... yeah right..
Seph
Then ask Katze out.Seph wrote:
It means you're willing to take risks. Its needed. Unless you're a pussy.Hanyuu wrote:
Courage... yeah right..
Bitch
The will to make sacrifices.Hanyuu wrote:
Courage... yeah right..
You always need to make a sacrifice in order to obtain what you want, even in love.
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Cropzy wrote:
paha internet relationships gg
Topic Starter
well my two cents from the experience if any1 wants to have a online relationship, make sure the other person likes/loves you before you get in one or else itll end up badly.... real badly
Isn't that like, a rule of thumb or something?jackishere wrote:
well my two cents from the experience if any1 wants to have a online relationship, make sure the other person likes/loves you before you get in one or else itll end up badly.... real badly
Let me rephrase it in the way I understood it.
I do strongly advise to make sure that it's not only a crush. A relationship based on infatuation can only go wrong, and both of you can get deeply hurt by it. It happens a lot in LDR, because sometimes it's hard to understand your feelings for another person who may live in the opposite side of the world and you prolly never met them either. And since the osu! community is filled with young and delusional people, like myself, it is easy to lose your head over a crush.
All of my relationships were online. I really don't want to write a wall of text right now, but, from my experience from a teenager who went from just a random kid with no experience on anything, to someone who can actually understand how online relationships should work (ideally, however most of the time this is almost impossible), I've learned that, as dkun said, trust is the most important thing you should have. Not the "no matter what you do I'll trust you", because I've been cheated on many times because of blindly trusting someone. You just have to BE SURE that you found someone who knows how you feel, and wouldn't ever do anything to hurt you, and not just date the first girl you talk for a whole night (sure it can start that way, but trust has to be constructed over time, which probably doesn't happen in less than a week).
I do believe in long-distance relationships. I'm saying this with the biggest certainty I've ever had, because right now, my love (who I met online) is buying the tickets to come here and meet me for the first time. Great timing for this topic, indeed.
I do believe in long-distance relationships. I'm saying this with the biggest certainty I've ever had, because right now, my love (who I met online) is buying the tickets to come here and meet me for the first time. Great timing for this topic, indeed.
most of my friends getting relationships online.
i feel left out.
dont wanna join the bandwagon tho
i feel left out.
dont wanna join the bandwagon tho
This. All of my real/proper relationships, that is.Blue Dragon wrote:
All of my relationships were online.
Also this.Blue Dragon wrote:
I've learned that, as dkun said, trust is the most important thing you should have.
Love, trust and patience is the key. I personally don't have any problem with them. However, I personally probably wouldn't get myself into an LDR again. Being so far away from somebody you love is definitely painful and the pain eventually fades but the love also fades with it, in my experience. I've had 3 relationships, I'll give a summary of my first 2 which will explain my feelings personally in my experiences of LDRs.
My 1st relationship ended because the guy couldn't meet me irl - it was all planned, even the date and then 1 month before he couldn't get the money. It felt like a dagger had pierced my heart. He suggested the breakup because he didn't know if he would ever actually be able to meet me and I agreed. There's also a long story about him wanting to get back with me but I'm not going to go into that.
My 2nd relationship was my "most real" relationship. The kind of love I felt for this guy was unreal and it was returned by him. It even got to the point where we talked about a future together and I found out a month before we met he had been thinking of proposing to me and keeping the proposal a secret from our Parents but then quickly came to his senses and realised how absurd the idea was - I was 15 at the time and he was 16. After months of hoping and planning to meet - our Mums met in Florida and we spent 3 days together. Even now, I think that those 3 days we spent together were amazing and I completely cherished them. However, after the 3 days when he had to fly back to Canada it was truly heartbreaking. When I got back, we were planning for him to come over to my house for a week during Christmas. However, for some reason his feelings started fading for me and all he cared about was the "sexual" part of the relationship which I'm not going to go into. To hear that his feelings were fading for me actually broke my heart - I kept crying. Eventually that heartbreak started to make my feelings fade and then we decided to end our dead relationship mutually. 2 weeks later he betrayed me and cut all contact with me.
TL;DR - It ended badly. And to think this is a summary of it, lol.
So, yeah. There's my 2 cents.
No, I'm stuck because the page doesn't load LOLBlue Dragon wrote:
All of my relationships were online. I really don't want to write a wall of text right now, but, from my experience from a teenager who went from just a random kid with no experience on anything, to someone who can actually understand how online relationships should work (ideally, however most of the time this is almost impossible), I've learned that, as dkun said, trust is the most important thing you should have. Not the "no matter what you do I'll trust you", because I've been cheated on many times because of blindly trusting someone. You just have to BE SURE that you found someone who knows how you feel, and wouldn't ever do anything to hurt you, and not just date the first girl you talk for a whole night (sure it can start that way, but trust has to be constructed over time, which probably doesn't happen in less than a week).
I do believe in long-distance relationships. I'm saying this with the biggest certainty I've ever had, because right now, my love (who I met online) is buying the tickets to come here and meet me for the first time. Great timing for this topic, indeed.
gimme a minute and I buy it D:
Topic Starter
well i hope everything works out fineBlue Dragon wrote:
All of my relationships were online. I really don't want to write a wall of text right now, but, from my experience from a teenager who went from just a random kid with no experience on anything, to someone who can actually understand how online relationships should work (ideally, however most of the time this is almost impossible), I've learned that, as dkun said, trust is the most important thing you should have. Not the "no matter what you do I'll trust you", because I've been cheated on many times because of blindly trusting someone. You just have to BE SURE that you found someone who knows how you feel, and wouldn't ever do anything to hurt you, and not just date the first girl you talk for a whole night (sure it can start that way, but trust has to be constructed over time, which probably doesn't happen in less than a week).
I do believe in long-distance relationships. I'm saying this with the biggest certainty I've ever had, because right now, my love (who I met online) is buying the tickets to come here and meet me for the first time. Great timing for this topic, indeed.
can i hop on the bandwagon where i say love knows no boundaries and that distance shouldn't matter as long as you have patience and trust
personally i prefer long distance because i'd take a shit on everyone here out of pure hatred and anger
they don't come out successfully but you still kinda live with the scars that have been made
it's something you'll never experience if you don't try
personally i prefer long distance because i'd take a shit on everyone here out of pure hatred and anger
they don't come out successfully but you still kinda live with the scars that have been made
it's something you'll never experience if you don't try
been in one already,and probbaly the stupidest thing i've ever experienced,never more,never again
go find friends IRL or etc
go find friends IRL or etc
My experience says no.
In my 1st relationship she disappeared misteriously, I haven't known nothing about her for more than 2 years and increasing, but I really treasure the time we spent together, we had plans to meet irl and almost managed to, but well, it can't be helped :v.
The 2nd lasted almost one year, we had very similar hobbies and many more things, but then things cooled down, and much, muuuuch, and you already may know what happened next, I'm single again.
Both were in the same country as me though.
But as I have always bad luck, meh, I don't close myself to another LDR.
There are some people that manages to meet irl and all goes very nicely. There are some that doesn't. Just enjoy the moment.
The most important thing in LDR are, as many have said, trust in yourself and your partner and don't lie, never lie, it's the golden rule, as every relationship, also, don't promise anything about meeting irl unless you have the resources to. Don't be afraid, if you really like each other, there will be no regrets and everything will be succesful. If you broke up, well, just try to keep talking and continue your life, don't get butthurt.
In my 1st relationship she disappeared misteriously, I haven't known nothing about her for more than 2 years and increasing, but I really treasure the time we spent together, we had plans to meet irl and almost managed to, but well, it can't be helped :v.
The 2nd lasted almost one year, we had very similar hobbies and many more things, but then things cooled down, and much, muuuuch, and you already may know what happened next, I'm single again.
Both were in the same country as me though.
But as I have always bad luck, meh, I don't close myself to another LDR.
There are some people that manages to meet irl and all goes very nicely. There are some that doesn't. Just enjoy the moment.
The most important thing in LDR are, as many have said, trust in yourself and your partner and don't lie, never lie, it's the golden rule, as every relationship, also, don't promise anything about meeting irl unless you have the resources to. Don't be afraid, if you really like each other, there will be no regrets and everything will be succesful. If you broke up, well, just try to keep talking and continue your life, don't get butthurt.
DakeDekaane wrote:
misteriously
DDDDDDDDDDDDI have no experience of this (and I don't really want to experience it tbh), but the differences between online interaction and genuine, human interaction are enormous. They're so fundamentally different that I don't think it's possible to know or love someone without meeting them. You could know everything about them yet you'd still have no understanding of what they're actually like. And what happens if you finally meet them and they're not the person you thought they were? I'm sorry to judge, but most of what I've seen from people who have been in these kinds of relationships is a very shallow kind of 'playing love'.