2017-02-23 The First AttemptLast night i was playing a bit of osu and the user Sophia that have replied to this thread before messages me curious if I'm just not able to talk with girls or is it that I can't write to them as well.. I said that it is both and this very nice person tries to help me by chatting a little bit which was really nice.. Anyway I was totally awkward even through text and I fucked up the conversation looking like a complete idiot by the end of it. If you read this Sophia i appologise for that.. Right now it feels like I'm fucking up a lot even though I'm just trying to be nice and make friends..
Anyway as i promised i went to campus today with the goal to talk to a girl.. Atleast exchange a few words using the good advice I've recieved. When i came to the university i sat down inside by a table alone for about 45 minutes trying to build up the confidence to try to talk to the cashier when i buy my morning coffee. I really wanted to go through with my goal but my mind told me that i would just embarrass myself if i would. Anyway after those 45 minutes i went into the the store, picked up my coffee and went to the cashier.. She looked at me and said.. "Hello, anything else?" and i got totally off track and only managed to stutter the word "No".. I'm shaking while handing her the money and i get totally paniced because not only did i stutter i also didn't manage to follow through with my plan to talk with her. I walk back to the table were I sat before I went to the store.. It was still vacant.. I sat down trying to take deep breaths and calm down after what happend.. The lecture was in 2 hours so I had time to just try relax. At this time it felt that my confidense took a really good hit, it almost felt like I had some kind of disease not letting me speak to girls. I sit there for those 2 whole hours just battling the bad thoughts, the lecture starts and I walk to the lecture room and while walking it struck me that I actually set up a goal for today and the day is not over.. I still have time to try talk with a girl.. I sit down in the lecture room and I'm thinking of this the entire time during the lecture, can I try speak with someone from my class? What if i mess it up, will the entire class make fun of me? There must have been atleast 100 questions making it through my mind that lecture but I've built up enough confidense to make a second attempt. The lecture ends and while walking out I am trying to find someone I can approach and try speak to and i find this cute girl, short, brown hair and blue eyes who is standing alone and I know attends the same lectures as me. I decided to walk up to her and ask if she knew when the homework was due and when i asked her she looks up to me and gives me the warmest smile I've ever seen in my entire life which made me stutter the sentence A LOT, she said she didn't know.. I tried coming up with another question to make small talk.. I didn't know what to ask so i thought i should try talk about something we had in common.. I asked her how she liked school, i stuttered less this time.. She answered that she likes it and asked me a question about our current assignment in programming which I knw but then I started looking at her smile again and completly locked up.. It was like my whole brain just shut off and I just didn't know what to say, there must have been like 20 seconds of silence of me just looking like a complete IDIOT.. By this time I'm having the worst panic I've ever had and i just squeeze out "Sorry.. I forgot what I was about to say".. She laughed a bit which now afterwards makes me think that it wasn't so bad but at the time it made me panic even more and I quickly also said that I had to go and I walked really fast out the building like next to running.. It was soo bad.. I almost felt sick when I got outside the building, what am i doing? Why can't I just keep such an easy conversation going? Anyway i fulfilled my goal for today and talked a little bit to a girl but can I even return to class? Did i make a total fool of myself?
TLDR: Made two attempts to speak with girls, first fails and second i exchange two questions then panics and basically run out the building..
I tried explaining the day as detailed as i could, if you have questions, suggestions, advice or any comments please do tell me.. I feel pretty bad today
Also I want to thank everyone which has sent me supportive PM's with advice and cheerfull messages! It helps a lot.