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Do you have a feeling where every user just actually hates you?

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MrMcMikey22
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Joined January 2021
Topic Starter
MrMcMikey22
EDIT: Changing the title in order to see if there's anyone that can think about it this way like me...


I slowly feel like every user just either ignores me or hates me. ._.

That has quite literally happened in the past few days...

It may not look like they really hated me, but the critism that I get that would be called as "honest".

That "honesty" thing.

And you know sometimes it could have been an accident that they'd act something like this.

Or they'd probably accidentaly ignore it...

But...

The critisism or reviews that I'd get of what people think about me.

It just feels like there's some evil things inside meant to offend me, without mentioning ANY of the positives!

And the ignorance that I'd feel like getting...

It's been going higher and higher...

And I really wish that this could just stop.

I sometimes just hate it when people would try way too hard to be honest. >=[

I really wish that I'd get just s o m e t h i n g positive from the users or else I'd probably feel empty inside for a looong time if that vicious cycle continues.

But so far the best thing to do is to just ignore about everyone and everything and to just try to think about of what I'd want to do instead.
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MangaGrumpy
318 posts
Joined May 2022
MangaGrumpy
Hey man
I like you
Remember that
Wimpy Cursed
1,129 posts
Joined July 2021
Wimpy Cursed
Personally, I do tend to be honest with people, but without an intention to "hurt" them.
I don't find myself rude when I do be honest, however that may not be the case to others. Sometimes I feel like I cannot fit with communities based on how I talk to people. But at the same time, it is the only way that I feel comfortable to people when giving legitimate answers. Trying to be I guess "too nice" is not good for me. It just feels like I am not being authentic to what I am saying.

Maybe others feel the same, I don't know. But criticism imo shouldn't be like all positive. You need to hammer down on the negatives, it is a way to support and give feedback to you. Sometimes, negative comments will be there, some can be hidden. But, that doesn't mean they hate you, maybe dislike some features but not hate.
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii
studies have shown that humans are much more affected by the negative than by the positive. it's in our nature to focus on one single bad comment than the other good comments. just to remind you that nobody hates you or wants to be harsh with you. the overwhelming majority will always think of you as a nice and silly person <33333
Aireunaeus
3,072 posts
Joined December 2021
Aireunaeus
Honestly i don’t have any problem with you, or hate you whatsoever. Just enjoy your stuff all you like… my posts also seem to be ignored sometimes and it makes me feel disappointed or upset on why there are no responses… Btw don’t focus on people all the time, we’re just people hanging around the forums. It’s not like we spend time here all the time…

Btw this thread kinda resembles to patatittas thread ;-;
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii

My Angel Anaxii wrote:

Btw this thread kinda resembles to patatittas thread ;-;
which one?
MrMcMikey22
1,744 posts
Joined January 2021
Topic Starter
MrMcMikey22

Wimpy Cursed wrote:

Personally, I do tend to be honest with people, but without an intention to "hurt" them.
I don't find myself rude when I do be honest, however that may not be the case to others. Sometimes I feel like I cannot fit with communities based on how I talk to people. But at the same time, it is the only way that I feel comfortable to people when giving legitimate answers. Trying to be I guess "too nice" is not good for me. It just feels like I am not being authentic to what I am saying.

Maybe others feel the same, I don't know. But criticism imo shouldn't be like all positive. You need to hammer down on the negatives, it is a way to support and give feedback to you. Sometimes, negative comments will be there, some can be hidden. But, that doesn't mean they hate you, maybe dislike some features but not hate.
I don't know about hammering down the negatives.

To me it almost sounds like hammering down the nails into the coffin of my stuff that gets reviewed and then telling the positives about my stuff right when it just dies and can't hear anything about that positive thing anymore.

Although I almost always had been the guy that mostly took the critisism as too negative...

I kind of hope I get something happy to think about today.
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii

MrMcMikey22 wrote:

Wimpy Cursed wrote:

Personally, I do tend to be honest with people, but without an intention to "hurt" them.
I don't find myself rude when I do be honest, however that may not be the case to others. Sometimes I feel like I cannot fit with communities based on how I talk to people. But at the same time, it is the only way that I feel comfortable to people when giving legitimate answers. Trying to be I guess "too nice" is not good for me. It just feels like I am not being authentic to what I am saying.

Maybe others feel the same, I don't know. But criticism imo shouldn't be like all positive. You need to hammer down on the negatives, it is a way to support and give feedback to you. Sometimes, negative comments will be there, some can be hidden. But, that doesn't mean they hate you, maybe dislike some features but not hate.
I don't know about hammering down the negatives.

To me it almost sounds like hammering down the nails into the coffin of my stuff that gets reviewed and then telling the positives about my stuff right when it just dies and can't hear anything about that positive thing anymore.

Although I almost always had been the guy that mostly took the critisism as too negative...

I kind of hope I get something happy to think about today.
everything is going to be okay
MrMcMikey22
1,744 posts
Joined January 2021
Topic Starter
MrMcMikey22
Hmmmmm.. I have a feeling that the discussion just won't really fix it.

But I do wonder if the others can relate to this issue?
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii

MrMcMikey22 wrote:

Hmmmmm.. I have a feeling that the discussion just won't really fix it.

But I do wonder if the others can relate to this issue?
in real life, i've never had this issue since i'm with my amazing friends and everything is okay

but on the internet, since most people are trash it happens all the time so i stopped caring and i'm perfectly fine now!
Aireunaeus
3,072 posts
Joined December 2021
Aireunaeus

Anaxii wrote:

My Angel Anaxii wrote:

Btw this thread kinda resembles to patatittas thread ;-;
which one?
That thread which brought winny to leave ot lel
Wimpy Cursed
1,129 posts
Joined July 2021
Wimpy Cursed

Wimpy Cursed wrote:

Personally, I do tend to be honest with people, but without an intention to "hurt" them.
I don't find myself rude when I do be honest, however that may not be the case to others. Sometimes I feel like I cannot fit with communities based on how I talk to people. But at the same time, it is the only way that I feel comfortable to people when giving legitimate answers. Trying to be I guess "too nice" is not good for me. It just feels like I am not being authentic to what I am saying.

Maybe others feel the same, I don't know. But criticism imo shouldn't be like all positive. You need to hammer down on the negatives, it is a way to support and give feedback to you. Sometimes, negative comments will be there, some can be hidden. But, that doesn't mean they hate you, maybe dislike some features but not hate.

MrMcMikey22 wrote:

I don't know about hammering down the negatives.

To me it almost sounds like hammering down the nails into the coffin of my stuff that gets reviewed and then telling the positives about my stuff right when it just dies and can't hear anything about that positive thing anymore.

Although I almost always had been the guy that mostly took the critisism as too negative...

I kind of hope I get something happy to think about today.
So basically, you cannot take criticism well sometimes?
Some people just don't "sugar code" it. They are still giving valuable feedback as to those who are nicer about it.
If you can get around that, every response should be treated the same.
Also, if the positives "die", just bring it back up. What I mean is, use that same positive for whatever you have next to be reviewed. Fix some negatives, bring back the old positives. The outcome will be greater than how it was before and you will most likely receive the same positive comments again, if not greater.
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii

My Angel Anaxii wrote:

Anaxii wrote:

My Angel Anaxii wrote:

Btw this thread kinda resembles to patatittas thread ;-;
which one?
That thread which brought winny to leave ot lel
ngl i've never really read the thread
Aireunaeus
3,072 posts
Joined December 2021
Aireunaeus

Anaxii wrote:

My Angel Anaxii wrote:

Anaxii wrote:

My Angel Anaxii wrote:

Btw this thread kinda resembles to patatittas thread ;-;
which one?
That thread which brought winny to leave ot lel
ngl i've never really read the thread
honestly the thread is kinda hard for me to understand but basically patatita said that we all act npcs because we arent really too honest on other people, which brings people to ignore stuff more etc.... this somehow made winny angry and decided to leave ot.....
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soccersilly04
29 posts
Joined June 2021
soccersilly04
hi there precious soul!

It breaks my heart to hear that people treat you this way. I don't wanna be overly pawsitive, but i feel like my name has been called!! I've been summoned! Are you having a hard time lately? There's nothing i can't fix, your presence is just like a gift, that is why you just have to open up! Perhaps you try avoiding the reality so that's why you label honesty as a negative thing. But let those who spread negativity aside, wooosh woosh, away! while you, is all that matters, loved & cherished by our meowgical community.

p.s: you rock ˶^ ᵕ ^˶! Stay happi, always be happie!
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii

My Angel Anaxii wrote:

Anaxii wrote:

My Angel Anaxii wrote:

Anaxii wrote:

My Angel Anaxii wrote:

Btw this thread kinda resembles to patatittas thread ;-;
which one?
That thread which brought winny to leave ot lel
ngl i've never really read the thread
honestly the thread is kinda hard for me to understand but basically patatita said that we all act npcs because we arent really too honest on other people, which brings people to ignore stuff more etc.... this somehow made winny angry and decided to leave ot.....
oh yeah we talked about it in DM

honestly i'm not gonna say what i think here... so let's forget this
Wimpy Cursed
1,129 posts
Joined July 2021
Wimpy Cursed
the fuck
anaxii
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Joined December 2022
anaxii

Wimpy Cursed wrote:

the fuck
off-topic moment
Wimpy Cursed
1,129 posts
Joined July 2021
Wimpy Cursed

Anaxii wrote:

Wimpy Cursed wrote:

the fuck
off-topic moment
Oh I wasn't talking about that.
Patatitta
1,244 posts
Joined February 2020
Patatitta
can't relate


and yeah about my thread was kinda a reverse on this, about people not really being honest at all

I still continue to believe that all that I said there is true. And reading this thread, I see this more on you having low self esteem than people actually saying bad shit about you, because I can't really recall any time of anyone really saying many negatives things about you. The only thing I remember is when I rated your webcomic low on my thread and you got really sad about it.
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anaxii
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Joined December 2022
anaxii

Wimpy Cursed wrote:

Anaxii wrote:

Wimpy Cursed wrote:

the fuck
off-topic moment
Oh I wasn't talking about that.
OH my bad-
synthwavesquid
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Joined February 2021
synthwavesquid
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none
4 posts
Joined December 2023
none
if you really think everyone hates you you might need mental help it sounds schizotypical people got there own problems bro the only way some can hate is if they know you KEEP YOUR CHIN UP


edit 2 osu can be a toxic place alien go bullied off the game KEEP YOUR CHIN UP
and be POSITIVE
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Wimpy Cursed
1,129 posts
Joined July 2021
Wimpy Cursed
going to form those anime chins
Reyalp51
962 posts
Joined April 2021
Reyalp51

Patatitta wrote:

can't relate


and yeah about my thread was kinda a reverse on this, about people not really being honest at all

I still continue to believe that all that I said there is true. And reading this thread, I see this more on you having low self esteem than people actually saying bad shit about you, because I can't really recall any time of anyone really saying many negatives things about you. The only thing I remember is when I rated your webcomic low on my thread and you got really sad about it.
Gotta agree with him in this one
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Nanofranne
692 posts
Joined May 2018
Nanofranne
Sometimes. But often than not, It's just me projecting my negative expression to others.

I tried my best to write neutrally and convey myself off from an unnecessary emotional upbringing, as in, how I'd talk irl. This is so that others focused to what I'm trying to convey and to hopefully avoid any negativity.
sxkvi
sxkvi
I think is just you 😭😭
Gsun
Gsun
I had that feeling alright, when I did some horrible things to people on quora and now they all hate me for it.
reinosk
234 posts
Joined April 2021
reinosk
for me it's quite simple, if I haven't done anything seriously wrong, there's no right for them to hate me. that's why I don't feel like anyone hates me. at least I don't talk about other people's bad behaviour, so I don't worry.

the world is full of drama, mate. so take it easy.
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Hachiman Ryouta
50 posts
Joined October 2014
Hachiman Ryouta
Yeaah it be like that, even in my daily life, with real persons i do tend to feel the same way as you stated in the tittle, but i also think you have to be brave enough to overcome this and talk to people you'd like to be friends with, because i've lost so many friends that way :(.
reffty_gag
324 posts
Joined July 2023
reffty_gag
Its ok bro, it just one of those challenge of your life (or maybe you need therapy). And also, i love you :heart: :hug:





(HONESTYYYYYYY)
NitroZz
140 posts
Joined November 2022
NitroZz
I was lucky to come across almost only kind-hearted people
Utsushime
38 posts
Joined March 2021
Utsushime
It's more of a feeling of being an outcast for me. The constant dark whisper that nobody likes me, that I am being a bother to everyone, or that if I'm going to disappear, nobody is going to care—which is more true. Logically, people don't care enough to hate me, and it hurts my fragile pride. However, I've also met very kind and lovely people on the internet, so the voice is something I've learned to ignore.
That said, I don't mind if people are being honest with me, even if sometimes it may come off as mean. It helps me know how to better myself!
- Marco -
7,384 posts
Joined December 2011
- Marco -
Not anymore for me, i see that osu users like having me around i think
NissingMo
52 posts
Joined October 2023
NissingMo
I know someone who talks and thinks in this way. You need to take people’s opinions into account, but don’t chase them.

Asking or receiving feedback is good, but if you are constantly vying for someone’s time and they really aren’t interested in what you have to say, you need to respect that and find other things to occupy your time with.

Know who will give you the time of day. Keep working on you. In time you will have a strong group of people who you can connect with and you won’t have to worry about being disliked or ignored.
ClevelandsMyBro
851 posts
Joined April 2018
ClevelandsMyBro
all the time
Jangsoodlor
Jangsoodlor
I mean, Off-Topic threads shouldn't be taken seriously in the first place. Serious discussions goes in General, Otaku Culture, Music etc. etc.
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Nanofranne
692 posts
Joined May 2018
Nanofranne

Jangsoodlor wrote:

I mean, Off-Topic threads shouldn't be taken seriously in the first place. Serious discussions goes in General, Otaku Culture, Music etc. etc.
I have to carefully on OT. It's a cursed land there
Reyalp51
962 posts
Joined April 2021
Reyalp51

Nanofranne wrote:

Jangsoodlor wrote:

I mean, Off-Topic threads shouldn't be taken seriously in the first place. Serious discussions goes in General, Otaku Culture, Music etc. etc.
I have to carefully on OT. It's a cursed land there
You mean a blessed land
BlueChinchompa
723 posts
Joined May 2019
BlueChinchompa
I haven't interacted with you much, but I don't hate you.
boat
2,369 posts
Joined February 2010
boat
i won't hate you anymore if you post a bird with arms
reinosk
234 posts
Joined April 2021
reinosk

boat wrote:

i won't hate you anymore if you post a bird with arms
aye
MrMcMikey22
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Joined January 2021
Topic Starter
MrMcMikey22

boat wrote:

i won't hate you anymore if you post a bird with arms
Hachiman Ryouta
50 posts
Joined October 2014
Hachiman Ryouta

MrMcMikey22 wrote:

boat wrote:

i won't hate you anymore if you post a bird with arms
Neigdoig
650 posts
Joined May 2021
Neigdoig
My tongue is sharp... very sharp. Because of it, I personally don't give a rip of what other people think of my ideas. If someone is genuine enough to let me know if something makes them uncomfortable, I'll work with them to figure out what I can do in the future.
qwt
965 posts
Joined January 2020
qwt
well I KNOW FOR A FACT mostly every active forum user hates me
reffty_gag
324 posts
Joined July 2023
reffty_gag

qwt wrote:

well I KNOW FOR A FACT mostly every active forum user hates me
"In other wooord, i <3 you" idk who you are i dont see you in forum
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Ymir
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Joined June 2020
Ymir

qwt wrote:

well I KNOW FOR A FACT mostly every active forum user hates me
I don't think so
Patatitta
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Joined February 2020
Patatitta

qwt wrote:

well I KNOW FOR A FACT mostly every active forum user hates me
tbh I don't think half of OT knows who you are anymore
sametdze
339 posts
Joined July 2021
sametdze

qwt wrote:

well I KNOW FOR A FACT mostly every active forum user hates me
i definitely could name one guy.
niat0004
222 posts
Joined September 2017
niat0004
Responding to the title, I feel this for 2 communities (which I'm not going to name).

As for criticism that is supposed to be "honest" (e.g. map mods), the poster almost always means well. Take the advice slowly, and if you feel slowed by the pain of the criticism, slow down and wait a couple days before responding to more.

And being ignored? That just happens on the Internet. Building community reputation will mitigate it, but avoid the expectation that users will respond to you.

Remember, most users have good intentions. They will, however (in the case of map modding, at least), often not remember to point out the positives in your map, hence why it takes some people (like you and I) so much energy to respond to mods.
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