phonics wrote:
I really need some serious zen monk tips on controlling my nerves. Its so bad I can feel blood rushing to my head and my hands shaking even when I'm about to FC maps that would give me NOTHING.
The degree to which you get nervous can become habitual. If you don't grasp control of it early on, it becomes harder to avoid the longer it goes on. It becomes an instinctive response... fight or flight. Being nervous is something I personally have to avoid wherever possible for health reasons, so mastering my nerves is ultimately one of my osu! goals. I quit osu! twice for 3-4 months each time because of it, even ending up in hospital at one point because I could not control my stress. While I don't have zen monk tips, these are the things I do:
Start with analysis. Learn to recognise mis-reads instead of just assuming your nerves are at fault. Find quirks in patterns that aren't quite the shape or distances you thought they were. Some maps have patterns that appear to be really easy, but if you stop and analyze them, you'll see they are more difficult than they seem.
Keep playing maps you are confident on (read: consistent), and raise your confidence level before attempting to set top scores on stuff that is difficult for you to do in a few attempts. Confidence is the key to controlling your nerves, and is best done while avoiding being nervous altogether. Find something you don't get nervous on (seriously... anything) and play it. Find more like it and play them. Raise the bar slowly, build consistency and confidence.
This is basically like playing below your maximum skill level... However you can still
practice above it, because your goal there is a means to an end, not "now", so your mind knows not to get nervous. Just avoid playing between those 2, your maximum, where your nerves take hold, because that 1 play out of multiple attempts is going to make you nervous. So don't retry so much, and build up your confidence from a skill level you
know you reside at.
Take your time. Practice efficiency rather than doing things faster. Practice what you are bad at, instead of clinging to hope. Nothing stresses you out more than rushing.
Gigo wrote:
What worked for me, is that I've accepted with a 100% certainty that I will never get good at osu, I'll never achieve a 3-digit rank( hell, I might not even achieve a 4-digit rank). And believe it or not, since I've accepted that, I'm having much more fun when I play.
It's not necessarily about getting rid of high goals, but rather how you plan to achieve them. You can keep those goals, but decide to pursue them at a comfortable pace. The contradiction is that the goal is a moving target which gets further away the longer you take. However if you ignore that, you can still enjoy the game, play practice maps (for fun), all while keeping the goal of getting good... eventually.