Choking/Strangling isn't bondage, it's already in the S/M department. The two often come together, but they don't have to, so your example doesn't really fit.Aurani wrote:
Yeah, because nothing screams "I'm sensitive and love you" like chocking/strangling her whilst you're filling her.
Believe it or not, you can absolutely mess someone up the first minute and then later on be sensitive and romantic. And besides, who would always want to be touchy-feely in bed? Mix it up a little bit, mate.
But I'm not going to give you a manual here. If you have a personal aversion towards tying someone to a bed-frame, that's cool with me. And that's coming from a guy who isn't even primarily into bondage. It's just staggering how you could confuse sexual violence with playful excitement.