Aurani wrote:
When we're on the subject of bashing others, I literally have less problems with someone having a fetish for making love to animals than someone who's into bondage. That shit is so disgustingly cringy it's unbelievable. Makes me feel like those kind of people are heavily into some kind of rape.
Power-dynamics are exciting when taken to a new and higher level, which is why many people seek to integrate this excitement into their sex-lives. While rape, from the rapist's perspective, is often about exerting power over their victim, it also royally fucks over the victims life, which most people find to be a repulsive thing to do.
Only because there is some minor and insignificant overlap for rape and bondage regarding one party exerting power, doesn't mean that the two should be conflated. They are as different as could be. For most "normal" people, power is only sexually exciting when they don't ruin someone in the process, as they tend to be sensitive to genuine emotional distress. Bondage tends to evoke different feelings than genuine emotional distress.
Mr Color wrote:
identifying oneself within a fanbase is about the most stupid things you could do
if i like something, i like it. i don't stop and worry every five minutes about what people will think of other people that like that thing, because they're not me and I don't care.
stop being so fucking insecure about your goddamn life will you
If you don't care what other people think, that just makes you asocial.
Identifying yourself with a group doesn't mean that you surrender your free will and personality to the group. It just means that you feel like you can get along with most people in the group, that you share common interests or goals, that you enjoy spending time together and possibly even think similarly. It's not an subservient "MUST FOLLOW THE GROUP"-feeling, its just a social "yeah, these are my people"-feeling. Everyone who is not completely immature can identify himself with a group while maintaining his independence.