Mafuuu wrote:
Not a lot of people are making long posts... This is unnerving me a little but I like reading random life shorts so I'll say mine too. BEWARE TEEN MELODRAMA. (a pain to read indeed)
It's embarrassing so I'll put it in a boxA few weeks ago, I graduated from high school. Now my classmates, teachers, and schoolmates aren't what I would consider 'close'. This isn't because I hate them or can't communicate, I make satirical comments every time they'd try to initiate conversation and keep it up for a good 3 minutes before I got bored. Yep, I'm genuinely get sleepy during any conversation irl. Communication is a tiresome thing, the longest I've been with a classmate straight was probably 2 hours, but that was during a chess match so it isn't really counted is it? It's surprising since I've been with most of them for 10 years and still don't feel any connection.
And yet when I saw all of them grouped up in 2's and 3's during graduation crying or talking about how they'd plan to meet up after awhile and it just kinda made me feel really bad for being the one kid bugging the teacher asking if I could go home yet. I felt that I should've opened up to them more. Or at the very least, I should've tried instead of letting myself fall asleep. There were actually some of them who tried to befriend me. I called friendship out to be BS at the time but I'm starting to realize I was wrong now.
So recently, yesterday that is, I've finally made a small effort by saying yes to one of their proposals to 'hang out'. It's kinda sad but this'll be my first time going out of the house on a trip with people that isn't mandatory for school. I can't even believe that they'd ask the kid who only made snarky remarks at the teacher every once in awhile to hang out. I'm really happy to have had nice people like that during school. I'd probably slap myself if any of them saw this though. Heh.
I'll try my best!
RIP my anti-social streak
It seems like school fulfilled your social needs, even without you having close or intimate friendships.
Even if you pretend that you don't notice or value the people that were around you, they were still around you, fulfilling your social needs. You realize how you need(ed) them, once all the familiar faces are gone.
After half a year of being pretty much alone, it started to take its toll on me. So yes, find friends, keep then and treasure them. They are important, not only for your happiness but also for your sanity.
Another thing: Conversations get less tiring when you are actually interested in the subject
And with practice comes mastery.