(I'm basing all of this on something that has happened to me during the past week or so, combined with life experience. I'm keeping the name anonymous out of respect. Also if you don't think this pertains to you, keep reading. Because eventually, it will. But if you truly don't care then lol by all means, go read the off topic threads!)
Everyone knows that life can be hard. We all experience it at some point whether you like it or not; it's a fact of life. It's because of this that we as humans go out and find friends, so we can all have fun, have somebody to talk to, or even have something just a bit more than a friendship. Most people want love whether they realize it or not, if they don't then they probably have some sort of disorder (no I'm not joking).
If we're lucky, we find someone who we care about a lot. And when I say a lot, I mean a LOT. And if we're even luckier, they feel the same way towards us. At this point it's natural for us to think that everything is going to be okay in our lives now that we have a lover to go to, and that may be true! However, here's the important thing...Don't lull yourself into a false sense of security.
Love can fail, it can fail in ways that won't hurt you, or it can fail in ways that will completely and utterly destroy every ounce of self confidence you were holding inside yourself. It can fail without your partner giving any explanation. It can fail when your partner seemed totally happy no more than five minutes ago. It can fail when just a little bit over an hour ago you promised each other that your relationship isn't going to fail. It. Can. Fail.
Now this is certainly not me trying to tell you that love always fails, that's just simply untrue! And I'm certainly not trying to say that when love fails, it will fail really hard and destroy you every time. What I'm trying to say here is that you can't let yourself believe that everything will be okay just because you have one person. Maybe that person WILL help you through everything, that's possible too!
Even if your relationship is happy, it will have bumps on the road. That's also a fact of life simply because we're humans, we aren't perfect; love doesn't change that about us. So another word of advice from me would be not to let those bumps ruin you, they aren't that bad. They're NATURAL. When there's an issue, don't storm out of the room (or osu client if that's what you're doing) just because of a disagreement, you'll make things worse. Try to solve the issue calmly so neither of you are hurt and you're both happy together. It might even bring you closer together.
And then for the people who do not have any relationship at all but want one, this is for you. Don't lose hope, and don't give up. The world is very, very big, there's bound to be someone out there who will love you to pieces just as much as you do! Just keep looking, or better yet, let it find you. That is a very common thing too, sometimes it honestly just comes and slaps you in the face, except it doesn't hurt (lol).
For those of you who are reading this and are in a relationship, I'm covering you as well. If you honestly believe that you're with the person who will grow old with you and love you until the end of his or her days, let them know that! Do not by any means take this person in your life for granted, because the moment something bad happens, you're gonna regret doing that. Tell them how much they mean to you, SHOW them how much they mean to you! Spend time with them, go hang out, Skype, whatever it takes! You've gotta make them know for a fact that you love them, and that they mean something to you, because when they question these things, most of the time they keep silent about it.
If you're not in a relationship but don't want one anyway, then good on you, you're pretty okay with your situation. But don't be surprised when love hits you in the face, because it will one day. (Not much to say about you guys lol).
Honestly, the bottom line here is that sometimes it just doesn't work out. Sometimes it's a mutual agreement and nobody is hurt, sometimes you're just a little disappointed but you know you'll be okay, or as I said above, "[it can] completely and utterly destroy every ounce of self confidence you were holding inside yourself." If you're the latter, then ask yourself this...does that damage have to be permanent?
You can't let one person in one situation totally crush you that way, you really just can't. Everyone is different, and just because someone you love says something or does something to you that makes you feel this way, that doesn't mean that they're right. We're human; we're wrong sometimes. Just know that you are more than likely a really good person, and it's just that some people don't know how to see that.
If you're still reading this, thanks for listening to me vent/give advice, I think this is really important as self confidence in these situations are very low recently. Don't lose hope and be happy!~
BrambleClaw
Everyone knows that life can be hard. We all experience it at some point whether you like it or not; it's a fact of life. It's because of this that we as humans go out and find friends, so we can all have fun, have somebody to talk to, or even have something just a bit more than a friendship. Most people want love whether they realize it or not, if they don't then they probably have some sort of disorder (no I'm not joking).
If we're lucky, we find someone who we care about a lot. And when I say a lot, I mean a LOT. And if we're even luckier, they feel the same way towards us. At this point it's natural for us to think that everything is going to be okay in our lives now that we have a lover to go to, and that may be true! However, here's the important thing...Don't lull yourself into a false sense of security.
Love can fail, it can fail in ways that won't hurt you, or it can fail in ways that will completely and utterly destroy every ounce of self confidence you were holding inside yourself. It can fail without your partner giving any explanation. It can fail when your partner seemed totally happy no more than five minutes ago. It can fail when just a little bit over an hour ago you promised each other that your relationship isn't going to fail. It. Can. Fail.
Now this is certainly not me trying to tell you that love always fails, that's just simply untrue! And I'm certainly not trying to say that when love fails, it will fail really hard and destroy you every time. What I'm trying to say here is that you can't let yourself believe that everything will be okay just because you have one person. Maybe that person WILL help you through everything, that's possible too!
Even if your relationship is happy, it will have bumps on the road. That's also a fact of life simply because we're humans, we aren't perfect; love doesn't change that about us. So another word of advice from me would be not to let those bumps ruin you, they aren't that bad. They're NATURAL. When there's an issue, don't storm out of the room (or osu client if that's what you're doing) just because of a disagreement, you'll make things worse. Try to solve the issue calmly so neither of you are hurt and you're both happy together. It might even bring you closer together.
And then for the people who do not have any relationship at all but want one, this is for you. Don't lose hope, and don't give up. The world is very, very big, there's bound to be someone out there who will love you to pieces just as much as you do! Just keep looking, or better yet, let it find you. That is a very common thing too, sometimes it honestly just comes and slaps you in the face, except it doesn't hurt (lol).
For those of you who are reading this and are in a relationship, I'm covering you as well. If you honestly believe that you're with the person who will grow old with you and love you until the end of his or her days, let them know that! Do not by any means take this person in your life for granted, because the moment something bad happens, you're gonna regret doing that. Tell them how much they mean to you, SHOW them how much they mean to you! Spend time with them, go hang out, Skype, whatever it takes! You've gotta make them know for a fact that you love them, and that they mean something to you, because when they question these things, most of the time they keep silent about it.
If you're not in a relationship but don't want one anyway, then good on you, you're pretty okay with your situation. But don't be surprised when love hits you in the face, because it will one day. (Not much to say about you guys lol).
Honestly, the bottom line here is that sometimes it just doesn't work out. Sometimes it's a mutual agreement and nobody is hurt, sometimes you're just a little disappointed but you know you'll be okay, or as I said above, "[it can] completely and utterly destroy every ounce of self confidence you were holding inside yourself." If you're the latter, then ask yourself this...does that damage have to be permanent?
You can't let one person in one situation totally crush you that way, you really just can't. Everyone is different, and just because someone you love says something or does something to you that makes you feel this way, that doesn't mean that they're right. We're human; we're wrong sometimes. Just know that you are more than likely a really good person, and it's just that some people don't know how to see that.
If you're still reading this, thanks for listening to me vent/give advice, I think this is really important as self confidence in these situations are very low recently. Don't lose hope and be happy!~
BrambleClaw
