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What have you done lately to better yourself?

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Geo
125 posts
Joined March 2013
Geo
I don't remember me doing anything to better myself, I've always been someone who think a lot, maybe a little too much wich sometime screw me and end up creating problems that weren't even there.
I'm someone who has been backstabbed a lot, either by friends or by the person that I love, and because of that all I have to do is to think wisely and pretty much all my anger or sadness just goes away in one instant and I'm able to live "properly" I guess ?
Just keep in mind that nothing is eternal and there's always someone worse off than you.

I'll also add that looking up to peoples who has been through much worse times than you definitely help a lot, I can guarantee that.
Anyway this is a really interesting topic, thanks for creating it.
Ringohan
21 posts
Joined November 2014
Ringohan
I'm facing my fear and anxiety whilst dealing with my past, even though I would rather hide under the bed covers for all eternity.
I'm trying to put my own selfish wishes aside to listen to my boyfriend when he's in need, because I realise that he needs me just as much as I need him.
I tried detoxing my body, but I kinda failed (as I love sugar in my tea :cry: ), but! Instead I've changed my lifestyle, even though it takes a lot of willpower to keep it up. I want to get better, though. It's definitely not helping on my sleeping pattern and depression.

I also want to say good job to you guys in here. Keep fighting, you're not alone!
Kedi
163 posts
Joined May 2010
Kedi
Quit smoking .
26. Day woooo
kidlat020
91 posts
Joined December 2013
kidlat020
realizing that humans are high maintenance and low rewards/returns. said maintenance include "respect" and "dealing with their pride" and of course, "authority". this principle really changed how I look at the world.

in retrospect, computers/machines/AI are low maintenance and very high rewards. I mean admit it, most of the time they're our source of income with whatever job we do in our PC. Myself I am an internet cafe owner and this only stressed my point even further.

Sometimes humans do not realize they're extremely reliant on technology and yet I wonder where do they get the capacity of getting this "pride" thing of theirs. truly, they're high maintenance and low rewards.

But you'd argue humans created machines. Perhaps clinging into the last Ace that humans are still superior to machines.

Point taken. but it only draws a simple conclusion. Humans should focus on building/creating. But heck, machines are a better builder than humans themselves. so strictly speaking its not creativity either.

But what? See the spoiler for the answer that would change your viewpoint forever.

Innovation
Tiisa
302 posts
Joined May 2013
Tiisa
Realised that I need to let the past go, I won't get any better if I keep reminding myself of traumatic situations from the past.
Ekoro
3,456 posts
Joined March 2010
Ekoro
i realized recently i can't handle most of close friendship (i'm annoying everyone by complaining everyday) so i think that going away for a while is the best way, although i still talk to some people.

well most of people didn't like this and yelled at me, but it's not like coming back will solve everything lol
Sousaki
177 posts
Joined May 2012
Sousaki
I have been playing less and I also focused more on real life :)
Nyxa
848 posts
Joined October 2013
Nyxa
Cool thread.

Started working on eating better
Put more trust into my girlfriend to decrease unnecessary paranoia
Also encouraging more openness and other stuff to further improve the relationship
Being more self conscious about what I say and how it affects others
Taking others' negative comments less personally by trying to figure out why they'd say them
Trying to take positive comments more seriously
Being more critical about my own maps and less nitpicky on those of others
Not overpracticing to the point of exhaustion every time so that I can actually improve my playing again
Trying to loosen up a little

I'm always working on lots of things but never make lots of progress with any of them. The length of this list doesn't mean as much as it might appear to

Also, I agree. Being yourself and accepting your flaws doesn't mean you can't work to improve them.
kidlat020
91 posts
Joined December 2013
kidlat020
Also, I agree. Being yourself and accepting your flaws doesn't mean you can't work to improve them.
I am nijigen-kun (2D-kun. you know what that means). meaning I shouldn't "go out".
- Yuuto -
970 posts
Joined September 2013
- Yuuto -
eat some snacks
AnglBunny
5 posts
Joined October 2013
AnglBunny
Taking others' negative comments less personally by trying to figure out why they'd say them
I'm glad you pointed this out. Sometimes it's difficult to see that everyone has their own backstory...

Trying to take positive comments more seriously
Something I also need to work on personally. I tend to be more hard on myself than others, and am never really convinced when I'm being told something positive
AskonNox
40 posts
Joined May 2013
AskonNox
I'm trying to actually use the advice i'm giving away to other people. The last couple of months were really hard...to be honest this whole year was just a mess.
I felt like i've been thrown back 5 years in the past where i felt that my life wasn't worth anything.
Buuuut, like i said i'm trying to use my own advice and improve my behaviour. I'm only at the start of this but i have a good feeling ^-^
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Tiisa
302 posts
Joined May 2013
Tiisa
I decided stop thinking about the past constantly and give someone I care for one last chance. I'm happy as things are now, why would I destroy everything for something that happened in the past? I also forgave someone that I used to hate and started to talk to them again, they're actually quite cool now. I also started to play osu! again after two years, this doesn't really better me in any other way than that it makes me feel happy and proud of myself.
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PikaCienna
PikaCienna
such embarassment
Zafkiele_old
Zafkiele_old
Hmm. What have I done lately to better myself?.. interesting questions.
Nothing... YET

I have realized though, through this question and a little self reflection, that I'm really self conscious (as a good amount of people are), and I pretend to not care. I pretend to not care, and then at the end of the day I keep thinking such negative thoughts to myself that it hurts and it's frustrating.

So I guess in a nutshell, I need to value myself better. But then again, I never feel satisfied with the achievements I get so I'm always hungry for more.
What a problem. :<
Kunino Sagiri
272 posts
Joined January 2012
Kunino Sagiri
I started devoting myself into making more ebin memes
and happiness
and happiness
I began to read more. 1 to 3 books a week on average, depending on the length of the book.

I feel like I am hooked for life.
FoundCape
9 posts
Joined January 2014
FoundCape
People are so deep in this thread O.O
As for me, I am trying to learn how to stream in osu! :P
-_Lazy_-_old
40 posts
Joined June 2014
-_Lazy_-_old
i poop moar
Magicphoenix
2,142 posts
Joined April 2010
Magicphoenix

Zafkiele wrote:

Hmm. What have I done lately to better myself?.. interesting questions.
Nothing... YET

I have realized though, through this question and a little self reflection, that I'm really self conscious (as a good amount of people are), and I pretend to not care. I pretend to not care, and then at the end of the day I keep thinking such negative thoughts to myself that it hurts and it's frustrating.

So I guess in a nutshell, I need to value myself better. But then again, I never feel satisfied with the achievements I get so I'm always hungry for more.
What a problem. :<
This is a very common problem. And while I have not perfected solving this problem yet, it has gotten a LOT better.
I could write a long essay here, but I'd best just give you a book to read that has the solution to your exact problem.

It's called "The Power of Now". It shows you how to be a conscious being, living in the present and teach you how to neither worry about the future, nor dwell on the past. Also, how to be happy within the conscious present.
Please do read it!

Also, depending on whether you're a guy or a girl, read Models by Mark Manson. It focuses on pick-up, but really it helps you a lot on self-improvement as well. Such as rich lifestyle, keeping an open heart and not being so self-conscious :)
Jarrizard
20 posts
Joined August 2013
Jarrizard
The fact that I can't come up with an answer for this thread bothers me. lol
Nathan
Beatmap Nominator
2,144 posts
Joined August 2014
Nathan
Considering trying new things
Korakov
178 posts
Joined July 2013
Korakov
Wake up and do some exercises in the morning, hang-out with my friends, and etc...

But yeah, that was very very rare for me, if someone ask and persuade me to join them, i'm not declining their request, absolutely, i wanna join with them.
GSG95
406 posts
Joined October 2014
GSG95
I shut my mouth.
Chiuyo
73 posts
Joined March 2013
Chiuyo
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Aurani
762 posts
Joined January 2013
Aurani

Chiuyo wrote:

I have it hard to delete pictures and messages I've gotten from people long ago. But I forced myself to delete every picture that makes me sad and every message I've gotten from people I no longer have in my life or people I truly dislike, and I'm going to leave everything that happened this year in the past except from meeting the guy in my dreams this December, and hoping for 2015 to be a good year. Atleast better than 2014.
You should buy a bottle of wine and keep it there for when you find out that all of those "dream guys" are mediocre at best. That's when you need to open the bottle and take a sip from the drink of maturity and look at the past, laughing at it. :p

Point is - just don't get overly attached and emotional to one person. The youth is there to have fun, so enjoy it while you still can~
TrashLyra
TrashLyra
Slowly improving myself at everything i do, One step at a time :)
Chiuyo
73 posts
Joined March 2013
Chiuyo
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kaetwo
111 posts
Joined October 2012
kaetwo
Well, I started working out, and I need to devote more time into work, and getting into school.
I communicated more to my coworkers and we had a couple shots (my first drinking experience) during our staff xmas dinner. That's something, I guess for an introvert.
Nathan
Beatmap Nominator
2,144 posts
Joined August 2014
Nathan
Stopped trying to multitask so much
Necturion
181 posts
Joined June 2013
Necturion

GSG95 wrote:

I shut my mouth.
...but it seems to piss my parents off :|
TheNekoNextDoor
446 posts
Joined March 2014
TheNekoNextDoor
So, if you've been lurking in the 'What made you cry today?' thread lately, you'd know the whole situation I'm in. For those that don't know, I'll get my post for you.
My situation

TheNekoNextDoor wrote:

It's time to have a little mope.
Okay, a big mope.

So, on Tuesday, I had a science test (Biology - my weak point). I panicked a lot, as you can tell if you read my posts in the "What did you do to better yourself" thread. I didn't answer many questions, and got instantly worried about my overall result.

I got my paper back, and I got an F+ mark. WAY lower than I would've wanted, and also my second F grade in a row in an end of unit test. (Note this is at GCSE level). I AM ABSOLUTELY AND UTTERLY DEVASTATED.
Plus we had a horrible supply teacher, which made things a LOT worse (actually one of the few times where I actually HATED a teacher)

I just checked on a service my school uses where I can check my levels, reward points, ect.
Due to my test level, my overall grade has dropped to an E.
AND MY PARENTS WILL BE ABLE TO SEE THAT OVERALL GRADE.

I need help. I am letting test grades decide what I'm worth, and beating myself up over it. I'm so close to giving up completely and losing my mind. If I fail the maths upcoming maths test (WHICH IS ON MY BIRTHDAY, EVEN WORSE), I'm lost.

I JUST NEED SO MUCH HELP. I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE. :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

Yesterday, I spoke to my form tutor about what happened with my Biology test and that I was pretty upset about it.

She told me not to worry about it, and she e-mailed my Biology teacher (not the cover teacher who I hated) that I was upset about the mark and that we'd had a conversation. She also told me not to think about the exam, and to think about how good I did in PE instead (she's my PE teacher as well).

Later that day, I spoke to the teacher I usually speak to in these situations, and she said I did a good thing for myself by talking to my form teacher about it. She gave me similar advice.

So, it's all good right now. :)
Poofie
91 posts
Joined October 2013
Poofie
I allways better myself everyday, by sleeping. It is a fast "Reset" for my gaming reflexes and stuff.. :'3 sleeping is nice.
Tamara
13 posts
Joined November 2012
Tamara
I've searched help for the problems I have, I didn't want to seek for help until the first thoughts of "what am I worth" came up. It's not been too long but having someone to talk to really helps. Won't go into detail on what exactly are my problems
- Marco -
7,043 posts
Joined December 2011
- Marco -

GSG95 wrote:

I shut my mouth.
Nathan
Beatmap Nominator
2,144 posts
Joined August 2014
Nathan
I've started to learn how to mod/map
Ryukaii
33 posts
Joined June 2013
Ryukaii
I'm 15 and dealing with Depression and yes, Overthinking. Even though i'm young, i tend to overthink "Life" things. Such as i will never have a career, I'm not good at anything, i'm better off not being here. Recently, i have been trying to pick myself up. I will be concentrating more on my school work. My aspirations are Voice Acting and Game Development.

Glad you're doing better for your self JAKACHAN. Good luck in the future!
Magicphoenix
2,142 posts
Joined April 2010
Magicphoenix

Ryukaii wrote:

I'm 15 and dealing with Depression and yes, Overthinking. Even though i'm young, i tend to overthink "Life" things. Such as i will never have a career, I'm not good at anything, i'm better off not being here. Recently, i have been trying to pick myself up. I will be concentrating more on my school work. My aspirations are Voice Acting and Game Development.

Glad you're doing better for your self JAKACHAN. Good luck in the future!
Hey man, it's really impressive that you already have goals and what you want to become in the future (Voice Acting, that's cool as fuck!). That's a big driving force for everything you do in life, so make sure never to let go of those goals!
You might want to read "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle to solve your overthinking problems :) It's a bit spiritual but a huge help for everyone, that I know of, who read it. Also, Feeling Good The New Mood Therapy by David Burns has helped a lot of people out of depression. I know it's in no way easy to deal with depression and it's really not cool that you have to deal with it, so stay strong a'ight? :)

Good luck bro, you're still young so don't forget living the way you want it and always, always improving on yourself (ofc also do that when you get older! :D)

PS: If you want the pdf of those books send me a pm.
Ryukaii
33 posts
Joined June 2013
Ryukaii

Magicphoenix wrote:

Ryukaii wrote:

I'm 15 and dealing with Depression and yes, Overthinking. Even though i'm young, i tend to overthink "Life" things. Such as i will never have a career, I'm not good at anything, i'm better off not being here. Recently, i have been trying to pick myself up. I will be concentrating more on my school work. My aspirations are Voice Acting and Game Development.

Glad you're doing better for your self JAKACHAN. Good luck in the future!
Hey man, it's really impressive that you already have goals and what you want to become in the future (Voice Acting, that's cool as fuck!). That's a big driving force for everything you do in life, so make sure never to let go of those goals!
You might want to read "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle to solve your overthinking problems :) It's a bit spiritual but a huge help for everyone, that I know of, who read it. Also, Feeling Good The New Mood Therapy by David Burns has helped a lot of people out of depression. I know it's in no way easy to deal with depression and it's really not cool that you have to deal with it, so stay strong a'ight? :)

Good luck bro, you're still young so don't forget living the way you want it and always, always improving on yourself (ofc also do that when you get older! :D)

PS: If you want the pdf of those books send me a pm.
Hey dude. Yeah, Voice Acting and Game Development have always been a passion of mine. I can do Anime/Videogame voice impressions, and i am even in a fandub of Angel Beats coming out very soon ^_^. I plan to go public with voice acting by putting it in my Indie RPG i shall be working on.

Thanks a lot for the recommendations! Will definitely check them out. ^_^
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