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How do I get girls interested in me?

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Comrade Daniel
I see that people around me who I never expected to get a gf, get a gf, even if they have a lot of characteristics that can turn some women off.

Many people describe me as a funny, happy, creative, confident, open, intelligent, independent and honest person. However, I still manage to get ghosted or get a cold response from girls when I talk to them on social media.

So do you fellow osu players have any advice to me on how to get girls to be interested in talking to me?
mariapapu
probably the best thing to do is to not try so hard, like rather than really trying to get someone to like you or be interested in you I feel like it's always the best to rather just focus on your own stuff first, like focus on activities and hobbies that you like and find someone through all that maybe? And I mean there's nothing wrong with seeking company elsewhere too but from seeing how other people are like and also from my own experience when you try too hard to get others to like you it seems to always backfire.
Naiad

Comrade Daniel wrote:

I see that people around me who I never expected to get a gf, get a gf, even if they have a lot of characteristics that can turn some women off.

Many people describe me as a funny, happy, creative, confident, open, intelligent, independent and honest person. However, I still manage to get ghosted or get a cold response from girls when I talk to them on social media.

So do you fellow osu players have any advice to me on how to get girls to be interested in talking to me?
Using social media isn't a very good idea as a man trying to get a girlfriend. The number of men looking for women online is larger than the number of women looking for men, you're inherently at a disadvantage.

Additionally, with so little advice it's hard to say if you're doing anything "wrong" per se.
Rezq Gokou
It's better to talk to girls irl rather than online, they maybe think you are just another r who wants to get a gf with no effort
Kaaruumii
just dont be like loserotaku and you should be fine
Wimpy Cursed
you walk up to a girl and ask for number 👍
Stomiks
Just have a likeable personality and you'll get along just fine. There's always a possiblity anyone you meet won't always have the same interests as you and that's to be expected. That's why you can't always be friends with everyone.

If you're looking for a romantic relationship, don't bother unless you're using dating apps or other similar methods. That way your intentions are clear and would match with the other person who's interested in you, as opposed to a friend you know who's ambiguous to dating.

If you have a girl you're interested in, let the relationship grow naturally and don't do anything in attempts to hasten the process. Genuine relationships take time to bloom and maybe in the end she really isn't interested in you. It's best to move on and try again with another girl you're interested in.
UPR
Just don't try to hard, if you make it seem like your desperate (I'm assuming your not that desperate) it can turn some people off. Just take it slow; also are you looking online because its irls social medias or online ones?
15C
Well, osu is probably the worst place to be asking for advice with girls

but you can't force any girls to be interested in talking to you. Most are interested in respectable, mature, and cute guys. Girls probs look for personality more over looks, but still look for handsome faces, etc. Just be a nice respectful guy and don't try and do any stupid psychology tricks or do anything stupid to get their attention.
worst eu player
Rezq Gokou

K4N44 wrote:

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐢 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞? 𝐈 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 '𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐝' 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐲.
Relate 😔
Topic Starter
Comrade Daniel

Kaaruumii wrote:

just dont be like loserotaku and you should be fine
Who even is loserotaku?
anaxii
Play more
Wimpy Cursed

Comrade Daniel wrote:

Kaaruumii wrote:

just dont be like loserotaku and you should be fine
Who even is loserotaku?
They are deemed the next top osu! player in a few years
ClevelandsMyBro
assert your dominance
loserotaku
dont listen to the bluepilled cucks here. its all about genetic looks. there isnt really much you can do about it. personally does not matter to women
15C

loserotaku wrote:

dont listen to the bluepilled cucks here. its all about genetic looks. there isnt really much you can do about it. personally does not matter to women
DONT LISTEN TO THE VIRGIN LOSEROTAKUUUU
Stomiks

loserotaku wrote:

dont listen to the bluepilled cucks here. its all about genetic looks. there isnt really much you can do about it. personally does not matter to women
Fucken loser
Reyalp51
anaxii
How about searching for a boyfriend Daniel?
Rezq Gokou
I will just search for Jesus /j (I'm still muslim)
Topic Starter
Comrade Daniel

I AM VERY SMART wrote:

How about searching for a boyfriend Daniel?
Only a small minority of boys are lgbtq, and I am attracted to women, so no.
Kaaruumii

loserotaku wrote:

dont listen to the bluepilled cucks here. its all about genetic looks. there isnt really much you can do about it. personally does not matter to women
just lift take showers and be nice to women to become chad
anaxii

Comrade Daniel wrote:

I AM VERY SMART wrote:

How about searching for a boyfriend Daniel?
Only a small minority of boys are lgbtq, and I am attracted to women, so no.
Oh ok
Lightning35
Tell them you can stream 300 bpm on osu

Comrade Daniel wrote:

I see that people around me who I never expected to get a gf, get a gf, even if they have a lot of characteristics that can turn some women off.

Many people describe me as a funny, happy, creative, confident, open, intelligent, independent and honest person. However, I still manage to get ghosted or get a cold response from girls when I talk to them on social media.

So do you fellow osu players have any advice to me on how to get girls to be interested in talking to me?
Tell them you can stream 300 bpm on osu.
Jangsoodlor
m i g i

loserotaku wrote:

dont listen to the bluepilled cucks here. its all about genetic looks. there isnt really much you can do about it. personally does not matter to women
...damn
anaxii

Lightning35 wrote:

Tell them you can stream 300 bpm on osu

Comrade Daniel wrote:

I see that people around me who I never expected to get a gf, get a gf, even if they have a lot of characteristics that can turn some women off.

Many people describe me as a funny, happy, creative, confident, open, intelligent, independent and honest person. However, I still manage to get ghosted or get a cold response from girls when I talk to them on social media.

So do you fellow osu players have any advice to me on how to get girls to be interested in talking to me?
Tell them you can stream 300 bpm on osu.
SPOILER ALERT: it's not really going to work...
[-Omni-]
im not the best person to say how to since i date guys but id say to get into ANY relationship is

1: have a good personality

2: dont really try to get one because its just annoying so js focus on yourself

3: if you aren't you could take care of like how you look. i mean for relationships (atleast good ones) its always personality over looks but girls will still be more interested i guess.
Reyalp51
thx Jang for remind me about this lmao
anaxii

[-Omni-] wrote:

im not the best person to say how to since i date guys but id say to get into ANY relationship is

1: have a good personality

2: dont really try to get one because its just annoying so js focus on yourself

3: if you aren't you could take care of like how you look. i mean for relationships (atleast good ones) its always personality over looks but girls will still be more interested i guess.
it's already better if you have a good personality; your partner will like you the same as your friends like you if you're an enjoyable person
Ymir
The general rule is:

Looks attract a person
Personality makes them stay

Both are equally important, and both can be improved by just focusing on yourself. The internet has made it seem so normal to get a partner so easily, but a lot of people don't get one until early to mid 20s. Don't rush it.
UPR

-Remi wrote:

The general rule is:

Looks attract a person
Personality makes them stay

Both are equally important, and both can be improved by just focusing on yourself. The internet has made it seem so normal to get a partner so easily, but a lot of people don't get one until early to mid 20s. Don't rush it.
Remi out here speaking fact frfr. Anytime I see someone say personality overlooks I kinda get confused. Cause I always found (for myself) that I get attracted by what I see first then I stay when I find their personality to be something I am fond of.
cyanideiscyan

Anaxii wrote:

Lightning35 wrote:

Tell them you can stream 300 bpm on osu

Comrade Daniel wrote:

I see that people around me who I never expected to get a gf, get a gf, even if they have a lot of characteristics that can turn some women off.

Many people describe me as a funny, happy, creative, confident, open, intelligent, independent and honest person. However, I still manage to get ghosted or get a cold response from girls when I talk to them on social media.

So do you fellow osu players have any advice to me on how to get girls to be interested in talking to me?
Tell them you can stream 300 bpm on osu.
SPOILER ALERT: it's not really going to work...
that will build a cult instead
anaxii

cyanideiscyan wrote:

Anaxii wrote:

Lightning35 wrote:

Tell them you can stream 300 bpm on osu

Comrade Daniel wrote:

I see that people around me who I never expected to get a gf, get a gf, even if they have a lot of characteristics that can turn some women off.

Many people describe me as a funny, happy, creative, confident, open, intelligent, independent and honest person. However, I still manage to get ghosted or get a cold response from girls when I talk to them on social media.

So do you fellow osu players have any advice to me on how to get girls to be interested in talking to me?
Tell them you can stream 300 bpm on osu.
SPOILER ALERT: it's not really going to work...
that will build a cult instead
A cult of what?
peacefulcat
step 1: stop playing osu
Ymir

peacefulcat wrote:

step 1: stop playing osu
anaxii

-Remi wrote:

peacefulcat wrote:

step 1: stop playing osu
Twiney
I will share with you a fairly reliable method.

First, I must preface: there is absolutely nobody on the planet who is obligated to be in a relationship with you. There is nothing you can do about that. Going into this with the expectation that you will find a girl will only serve to hurt you and the people around you.

That being said, the chance of finding a girl who would be willing to give you a shot is higher than you might think.

You want to shift your priorities from finding a girlfriend, to making friends with girls. And by that, I mean forming genuine friendships, where you care about learning about them as a person, their interests, and so on. You are not doing this to find a girlfriend. You are doing this to meet new people, forge connections, have fun, be outgoing.

Something you will notice about being friends with a girl, is that it tends to be a lot more open than being friends with a guy. Being friends with a guy is by no means less genuine, but there seems to be a lot less freedom to be emotional—I guess because people are afraid of seeming gay or something? A friendship with a girl is generally quite a bit less restricted in that way. I suggest you embrace that and reciprocate; be more open, more emotional. You will find it is actually quite freeing. And—after all, you aren't doing this with the expectation of finding a girlfriend, so it doesn't matter if you seem less 'manly', does it?

If you keep at this, you will find, sooner rather than later, that girls will start to show interest. Why? Because you've already built something, shown them who you are, and they're interested in you as a person. That's a significantly stronger basis to start a relationship than trying to chat up girls on social media.

It doesn't even really matter if they're single or not, or even interested in guys; befriend them anyway. After all, they might decide to try and help you out by introducing you to their own friends.

And, even if you don't get a girlfriend, you've made tons of friends anyway. Still a winning outcome.
anaxii
Imagine wanting a girlfriend

- Aroace people
[doofus]

DarnTwine wrote:

I will share with you a fairly reliable method.

First, I must preface: there is absolutely nobody on the planet who is obligated to be in a relationship with you. There is nothing you can do about that. Going into this with the expectation that you will find a girl will only serve to hurt you and the people around you.

That being said, the chance of finding a girl who would be willing to give you a shot is higher than you might think.

You want to shift your priorities from finding a girlfriend, to making friends with girls. And by that, I mean forming genuine friendships, where you care about learning about them as a person, their interests, and so on. You are not doing this to find a girlfriend. You are doing this to meet new people, forge connections, have fun, be outgoing.

Something you will notice about being friends with a girl, is that it tends to be a lot more open than being friends with a guy. Being friends with a guy is by no means less genuine, but there seems to be a lot less freedom to be emotional—I guess because people are afraid of seeming gay or something? A friendship with a girl is generally quite a bit less restricted in that way. I suggest you embrace that and reciprocate; be more open, more emotional. You will find it is actually quite freeing. And—after all, you aren't doing this with the expectation of finding a girlfriend, so it doesn't matter if you seem less 'manly', does it?

If you keep at this, you will find, sooner rather than later, that girls will start to show interest. Why? Because you've already built something, shown them who you are, and they're interested in you as a person. That's a significantly stronger basis to start a relationship than trying to chat up girls on social media.

It doesn't even really matter if they're single or not, or even interested in guys; befriend them anyway. After all, they might decide to try and help you out by introducing you to their own friends.

And, even if you don't get a girlfriend, you've made tons of friends anyway. Still a winning outcome.
This is the best unironic reply. Granted, my take is a bit different as nb and panromantic. But like, most of my friends growing up were dudes. As an adult, most of my friends are trans/nb and/or women. Women are just a lot easier to vibe with in my opinion, they like to see your emotional side. Dudes tend to build up walls and not show their emotions with other guys, even when you're close and talk a lot.

Besides, people have their own standards for relationships too. Not everyone is looking for an Insta model, personality matters most for a lot of women. From my past experiences with dating women they didn't date me because of my looks (I am average at best), but because we vibed and had shared interests. Once you find someone you vibe with well and communicate with openly, things will get a lot easier from there.
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