Okay wait- 1-2 months and you still feel like shit every single day?-MikexD- wrote:
My ex...we broke up 1-2 month ago after 1 year of being together and i still cant get over her (she cheated on me), it was a long distance relationship. Im trying to be strong but its just impossible, and sometimes she text and tell me how happy she is now and the ¨things¨ she already did with other guys (sex etc..)...i dont understand what she wants from me, but i feel like sh#! everyday after we broke up...time heals everything but is just not working for me, i dont know what to do anymore.
I mean yes, i can fully understand in certain terms that people can't get over it so easily-
but you're torturing yourself if you're still keeping contact with her- since...
sometimes she text and tell me how happy she is now and the ¨things¨ she already did with other guys (sex etc..)that's just wrong in all cardinal directions.
It's the best for both of, especially for you, if you stop contacting or replying to her immediately.
As harsh it may sound but... the slower you are the harder it gets to let go, either you do it in an instant and try to leave things behind or you'll be stuck with the pain and agony forever.
I know you both probably had good times aswell as bad times and it's up to your character & attitude how to handle with it, but it looks like you can't take it one bit so it's best for you to move on NOW and have those memories locked in the past.
Time will sure do something, as long as you're get a move on and not stand still in one position... so please do yourself a favor and delete her on every social media and IMs (instant messengers), if needed- block her and whatsoever... just try to get the things out of your sight and mind that has something to do with her.
You should start acquiring hobbies or activities, play sport or instruments, be yourself for a while and get off to do one of those things that you usually do.
Hang out with friends, just... everything that keeps you busy, physically aswell as mentally. Even gaming should do the job.
Oh... and if you're saying: "But she's the love of my life~", "We had so much in common", "Our memories are so..."
There are more than 7 billion people on this damn world, 7. Billion. Okay?
I know you'll never meet all of them and surely only the fewest will wake up your interest but damn... instead of standing still forever you should move and live your life again, enjoy it as long as you have your years to explore what you're truly capable of.
Instead of going for a LDR (not doubting that LDRs often tend to fail) you should start doing something IRL and maybe open up to yourself and to society, as ugly and disgusting it may be nowadays (and i don't know about your location), but digging in deeper will get you to those people and maybe you'll soon find someone who can respond your love. Though, as long as you search and explore, you'll truly find something.
I might be only one, but i'm always trying to see the positive things at something if i ever pick the short end of the straw at a certain time... if it's about relationship, job, health...
one explanation would be in "relationships": without them you wouldn't have had to experience how it might be to be loved by "that" someone, to gain experience and share them with "that" someone- so basically, all i want to say is that i, for once, am happy to go through shit in my life... as long as i always keep up learning from it and try to make things a bit better for myself and the people around me; the time i've spent on it were not wasted one bit.
So try to see and make the best out of this situation... as tough as things look like for you right now.
... I feel like this post won't really help anyone... though, i'd be happy if it does help a bit.
in case of a shitstorm
oh, and people, please spare me with the "he can't cuz it's 2 hard" replies... we're all different and share individual opinions so i'm just sharing my thoughts with this poor dude, so instead of replying to me, you should focus on the actual issue.
so yeah, everyone is unique to their own opinion and statement to things, we all can't experience and think the same- (looking past the surface)
TL;DR i think i just wrote all of this out of boredom... oh, i think my oven is preheated-
so yeah, everyone is unique to their own opinion and statement to things, we all can't experience and think the same- (looking past the surface)
TL;DR i think i just wrote all of this out of boredom... oh, i think my oven is preheated-