Anyone else get frustrated by how bad you are at talking to people. It sucks, my dude
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It can be a little stressful, but trust me, just don't pay attention to how bad you converse with others and just focus on talking. It will make you more optimistic about doing so.
I can talk to you like I am right now with little problem as I always talk. I little know why it hard talking for some people they just something being introvert I guess. Maybe slower you talk you can talk correct. Maybe.
Talk to you I can, as always, will little problem. Little do I know of the hardships some people face; Yet I guess introverted those might be. Correct talk by you maybe best done slowly.
I can talk to you with little problem. I know little why It's hard for some people to talk, but maybe it's something to do with being introvert I guess. Maybe if you talk slower you will talk correctly.
Talks are of little problem. Little is known by me why it's hard for some people to talk, but my guess you might be something of an introvert. Talk slower and maybe you will talk correctly.
Talk little problem. Me know little why hard for people talk. You maybe introvert. Talk slow maybe correct.
Well at least writing isn't hard. Why did I spend 10 min writing this shit. Anyway, I find it hard for me to talk to people I know less. There is some pressure at trying to be "correct" which make me less fluent, like a thing that the more you force the more it pushes back. Usually after knowing someone long enough and caring little of what may happen of whatever I say can I talk normally with them.
Talk to you I can, as always, will little problem. Little do I know of the hardships some people face; Yet I guess introverted those might be. Correct talk by you maybe best done slowly.
I can talk to you with little problem. I know little why It's hard for some people to talk, but maybe it's something to do with being introvert I guess. Maybe if you talk slower you will talk correctly.
Talks are of little problem. Little is known by me why it's hard for some people to talk, but my guess you might be something of an introvert. Talk slower and maybe you will talk correctly.
Talk little problem. Me know little why hard for people talk. You maybe introvert. Talk slow maybe correct.
Well at least writing isn't hard. Why did I spend 10 min writing this shit. Anyway, I find it hard for me to talk to people I know less. There is some pressure at trying to be "correct" which make me less fluent, like a thing that the more you force the more it pushes back. Usually after knowing someone long enough and caring little of what may happen of whatever I say can I talk normally with them.
Sign language, problem solved
In reality though, have a confident body language, clear speech and just fake it till you make it. I'm still hella scared when holding a speech in front of 500 people, but I pretend like I know what the hell I'm doing and that usually works
In reality though, have a confident body language, clear speech and just fake it till you make it. I'm still hella scared when holding a speech in front of 500 people, but I pretend like I know what the hell I'm doing and that usually works
I've had terrible social anxiety my whole life and I've only just started to come out of my shell a few months ago. Naturally, I suck with social skills. I can guarantee that my social skills are far worse than yours. I also constantly think everything I've said and done after socialising, or even just being in public, which is a huge weight on my shoulders.
As sociable I seem on Osu!, in real life, I still really struggle to talk. It's often physically difficult, whether it's because I barely talk or because it's due to stress/fear, I don't know.
Things are improving quite rapidly. I have a friend, who I talk to sometimes, and she's very understanding. I hope to socialise more when I go to college, so I can meet more people who are closer to my age.
A few months ago, I wouldn't have ever had any hope of having a friend, nor having a positive attitude towards socialising. Even going on public forums such as this would seem way too much!
Due to personal experience, I take this post to mean frustration over two different things - Being bad at socialising due to poor social skills (as in, like someone with Asperger's Syndrome/Autism, but probably less severe), and being bad at socialising due to fear and therefore avoiding it. Both of these are very different situations, although poor social skills can be a cause, or large contributor towards, social anxiety (even if not bad enough for it to be the disorder).
If due to poor social skills, I suggest practice. I've had (and continue to have) guidance, and plenty of it, but maybe it's possible to also learn alone. Learn how people behave in different situations. Possibly assess why. For example, I'm terrible with eye contact. I either do it too much, or, most likely, too little. I try to learn how to sort of 'break' eye contact in order to not make things too awkward, and to make me feel safe to do it.
If due to fear of socialising, I'm not sure how to cope with this alone. I've always needed tons of help with this problem. However, I would say that challenging yourself helps. I love to be challenged, so I've had a friend challenge me to do different things linked to socialising (e.g. Be in a more crowded area), and I eventually started to do this myself. I be honest with myself and give myself penalties when I fail (not too harsh, nor too light). If you're dishonest with where you went wrong, then what's the point of trying to improve?
I'm also trying to do, as suggested by Kira:
If you've had fun talking, then this should be your main focus. You could perhaps try to find faults, too, but don't beat yourself up over it. They're tiny things you could improve on in the future. Also, would the other person be assessing every 'wrong' thing you do? Most likely, they'll just be focused on how much fun they're having talking to you.
As sociable I seem on Osu!, in real life, I still really struggle to talk. It's often physically difficult, whether it's because I barely talk or because it's due to stress/fear, I don't know.
Things are improving quite rapidly. I have a friend, who I talk to sometimes, and she's very understanding. I hope to socialise more when I go to college, so I can meet more people who are closer to my age.
A few months ago, I wouldn't have ever had any hope of having a friend, nor having a positive attitude towards socialising. Even going on public forums such as this would seem way too much!
Due to personal experience, I take this post to mean frustration over two different things - Being bad at socialising due to poor social skills (as in, like someone with Asperger's Syndrome/Autism, but probably less severe), and being bad at socialising due to fear and therefore avoiding it. Both of these are very different situations, although poor social skills can be a cause, or large contributor towards, social anxiety (even if not bad enough for it to be the disorder).
If due to poor social skills, I suggest practice. I've had (and continue to have) guidance, and plenty of it, but maybe it's possible to also learn alone. Learn how people behave in different situations. Possibly assess why. For example, I'm terrible with eye contact. I either do it too much, or, most likely, too little. I try to learn how to sort of 'break' eye contact in order to not make things too awkward, and to make me feel safe to do it.
If due to fear of socialising, I'm not sure how to cope with this alone. I've always needed tons of help with this problem. However, I would say that challenging yourself helps. I love to be challenged, so I've had a friend challenge me to do different things linked to socialising (e.g. Be in a more crowded area), and I eventually started to do this myself. I be honest with myself and give myself penalties when I fail (not too harsh, nor too light). If you're dishonest with where you went wrong, then what's the point of trying to improve?
I'm also trying to do, as suggested by Kira:
Kira Yuura wrote:
It can be a little stressful, but trust me, just don't pay attention to how bad you converse with others and just focus on talking. It will make you more optimistic about doing so.
If you've had fun talking, then this should be your main focus. You could perhaps try to find faults, too, but don't beat yourself up over it. They're tiny things you could improve on in the future. Also, would the other person be assessing every 'wrong' thing you do? Most likely, they'll just be focused on how much fun they're having talking to you.
abraker wrote:
I can talk to you like I am right now with little problem as I always talk. I little know why it hard talking for some people they just something being introvert I guess. Maybe slower you talk you can talk correct. Maybe.
Talk to you I can, as always, will little problem. Little do I know of the hardships some people face; Yet I guess introverted those might be. Correct talk by you maybe best done slowly.
I can talk to you with little problem. I know little why It's hard for some people to talk, but maybe it's something to do with being introvert I guess. Maybe if you talk slower you will talk correctly.
Talks are of little problem. Little is known by me why it's hard for some people to talk, but my guess you might be something of an introvert. Talk slower and maybe you will talk correctly.
Talk little problem. Me know little why hard for people talk. You maybe introvert. Talk slow maybe correct.
Well at least writing isn't hard. Why did I spend 10 min writing this shit. Anyway, I find it hard for me to talk to people I know less. There is some pressure at trying to be "correct" which make me less fluent, like a thing that the more you force the more it pushes back. Usually after knowing someone long enough and caring little of what may happen of whatever I say can I talk normally with them.
This reminds me of that one exurb1a video lmao
Anyway, same here, although I just came out more than half a year ago. I felt like everything I was going to say would offend other people in one way or another and that I would screw up saying even the simplest thing so I chose not to speak at all. Only through life opportunities and events did I start to talk more and boi did I feel so good being able to express myself. I figured it out that there are other people around me who felt the same like me about conversing and so I felt more comfortable talking to others
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Carmlillball wrote:
I've had terrible social anxiety my whole life and I've only just started to come out of my shell a few months ago. Naturally, I suck with social skills. I can guarantee that my social skills are far worse than yours. I also constantly think everything I've said and done after socialising, or even just being in public, which is a huge weight on my shoulders.
As sociable I seem on Osu!, in real life, I still really struggle to talk. It's often physically difficult, whether it's because I barely talk or because it's due to stress/fear, I don't know.
Things are improving quite rapidly. I have a friend, who I talk to sometimes, and she's very understanding. I hope to socialise more when I go to college, so I can meet more people who are closer to my age.
A few months ago, I wouldn't have ever had any hope of having a friend, nor having a positive attitude towards socialising. Even going on public forums such as this would seem way too much!
Due to personal experience, I take this post to mean frustration over two different things - Being bad at socialising due to poor social skills (as in, like someone with Asperger's Syndrome/Autism, but probably less severe), and being bad at socialising due to fear and therefore avoiding it. Both of these are very different situations, although poor social skills can be a cause, or large contributor towards, social anxiety (even if not bad enough for it to be the disorder).
If due to poor social skills, I suggest practice. I've had (and continue to have) guidance, and plenty of it, but maybe it's possible to also learn alone. Learn how people behave in different situations. Possibly assess why. For example, I'm terrible with eye contact. I either do it too much, or, most likely, too little. I try to learn how to sort of 'break' eye contact in order to not make things too awkward, and to make me feel safe to do it.
If due to fear of socialising, I'm not sure how to cope with this alone. I've always needed tons of help with this problem. However, I would say that challenging yourself helps. I love to be challenged, so I've had a friend challenge me to do different things linked to socialising (e.g. Be in a more crowded area), and I eventually started to do this myself. I be honest with myself and give myself penalties when I fail (not too harsh, nor too light). If you're dishonest with where you went wrong, then what's the point of trying to improve?
I'm also trying to do, as suggested by Kira:
Kira Yuura wrote:
It can be a little stressful, but trust me, just don't pay attention to how bad you converse with others and just focus on talking. It will make you more optimistic about doing so.
If you've had fun talking, then this should be your main focus. You could perhaps try to find faults, too, but don't beat yourself up over it. They're tiny things you could improve on in the future. Also, would the other person be assessing every 'wrong' thing you do? Most likely, they'll just be focused on how much fun they're having talking to you.
Idk m8. Idk if its Im afraid to or what but the words just dont come. But yea that has lead me to avoid it alot which I know wont help but i just be that way
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Meah wrote:
My uncle can talk using his nose
For a sec a read noose and i was concerned
just be like Shouko Nishimiya and use sign language, if you ever talk there just gonna say ur voice is weird
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Qh5fOAcGS0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Qh5fOAcGS0
yeah i agre tt alskhing ti so vdryy hdr ddnd i dotn eveb ti hhnhgk i ca n talak
dddeku wrote:
Meah wrote:
My uncle can talk using his nose
For a sec a read noose and i was concerned
I am concerned