TeeArctic1 wrote:

Before you become a leader, your goal is to better yourself. After you become a leader, your goal is to better others.

wipes tears
That..that..was beautiful.

To answer your question, I’ve had leadership positions and opportunities in my earliest years of high school, but I would hardly consider myself to be a true leader during that time. You’re required to be outgoing in some situations. For example, introducing region chapter presidents to one another.
I don’t take initiative in that situation. I find it uncomfortable to make small talk, but I can pull it off if I sense any tension between groups. However, if I was in a work-related environment, I would consider myself a leader. I hate it when people dilly-dally around in a work environment, as I believe we should get our tasks completed first. I have been told I’m a pretty dogmatic and micromanaging person b/c of that lmao.

Are you more a past, present, or future person?

I guess I am a present person.

The past makes you wanna die out of regret.
The future makes you depressed out of anxiety.

And so the present is the happiest time.

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Same question.

Future, because I'm currently going through quite a hard time with my anxiety and I'm currently having help with it. With the progress I'm making, I'm definitely excited for the future, although also nervous!

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Indoor or outside?

My parents don't allow me to leave the house by myself to meet friends or whatever, only when I need to buy groceries or things like that. I haven't been exposed to much outdoor activity, so I suppose I'm more comfortable with indoors.

How many of your "friends" are actually friends? There's a difference between friends and acquaintances which you can research on before answering this question if you are uninformed. I sadly have none because as mentioned earlier, I don't get to meet up with other people often.

A fair amount of my friends are actual friends. I'm somewhat selective when it comes to my close social circle, so I manage to maintain it quite well with people I get along with, and who help me grow.

On that note, do any of your friends share common traits?

I have a lot of acquaintances, but only one I consider a friend. We’re both pretty stubborn, open-minded, and flighty people with a calm exterior. We both find it easy to talk to each other because of our similar interests and experiences, and our mutual respect of personal boundaries.


Do you think it’s better to be pessimistic or optimistic by default?

kind of difficult.

optimism's quite nice. you can see the best in things and always hold hope for the future. you can push on with the idea that things will work out. it's not to be confused with naivety, though it can be a big part of it. optimism is hope. in a way, it seems to bring others together.

pessimism's quite sobering and useful at times, but at others, not so much. though it's not to be confused with being cynical, pessimism is another way of being aware of how shit can go wrong. it tends to drive others away from you though, which kinda sucks.

as opposed to pessimism, cynicism is a bit more helpful. instead of being caught up in potential misfortune, acting with cynicism is a bit different in that you're there to detect potential misfortune and any kind of flaws in any kind of system, especially in people. a more stable form, but it can also drive others away as you're in the belief that everyone's in it for themselves, and thus, you've likely isolated yourself a bit in doing so.

skepticism is even better, but i'm going off-topic now. point being, optimism is shaky but in some sense, focuses on what's an ideal outcome and rides on the hope that it'll be true, and pessimism is more or less a downward spiral into nihilism if you get caught up in it, and sometimes just leads to us generally giving up.

i've seen some things relevant to this in my personal life. i've gone from optimism, to pessimism, to stoicism and apathy.

with all things considered, it's good to have hope for the future, but you can't ignore that shit'll go wrong. optimism puts you in the mindset of pushing through, while pessimism gives you the option of giving up or avoiding it entirely. knowing this, pessimism doesn't seem to be any more efficient than optimism, perhaps even less effective at getting anything done in life than optimism.

and so optimism is in a way, a slightly better mindset.

just... don't be naive about it.

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same question.

I'd definitely say optimist!

Science or Religious Studies?

(Both of the best subjects <3)

Eh, I'd prefer the numerous various sciences.

Religion would be kind of cool to study, but it's not really a priority. It'd be good to see where these manuscripts really originated, seeing how these ideas came about and understanding why things are written as they are, understanding the history behind various religions.

But I've yet to hold a real interest in it.

The sciences though, would be damn cool to work with and learn. It's been interesting.

I've only gotten as far as Chemistry. Physiology and Physics are next.

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A more controversial topic, but what's your stance on gender identity, and what's become of it?

I'm not really familiar to the concept but from what I've seen, I think it's ridiculous.
There are 2 genders: male and female, period. It's been proven, it's a fact, humans have lived thousands of years with that concept.

And now, for some reason people are making up more genders to fit into. Like, why?
And there are no rules or category to this gender identity thing either, you can be whatever gender you want without even having to change anything. How does that makes any sense? What if I say that I'm a man today, woman for tomorrow and then back to a man the next day? Would that still be acceptable?

I think that in the long run, gender identity would affect society negatively. Imagine going outside not knowing if a person is a man, a woman or a unicorn. How are you supposed to have a healthy relationship? What if a man says he's a woman just to retire earlier than normal? How do you divide toilets? It would be meaningless if a man says he's a woman and just walk into the woman's restroom. What about in sports? Should we accept biological man to join woman's teams?

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Same question.

Hmm.

I'm not exactly all that well-informed on the matter either, but I've looked into it a little and can see some of the reasoning behind it all.

I'd say I'm a little more accepting of it, though some skepticism still lurks. I've got a few friends that fall under the scope of this sort of thing, and I've learned a bit from my interactions around 'em, primarily, their stances, and the shit they put up with. A lot of 'em are pretty cool, and the mindsets and reasoning behind this whole thing can be kinda interesting.

A common way to clear things up seems to be the idea of the difference between biological sex and gender. Biologically, you're pretty much fixed to a particular sex, and the physical traits resulting from it are pretty obvious. Gender seems to be more of a mental thing, however. It's essentially what you identify as, who you feel you can best associate with. There's been some stuff regarding masculinity, femininity, and the concept that there's people that really just don't feel like they're either of the ideas of who's supposed to be "male" or "female". Biologically, they can't really do much, they're born as that sex, and if they were born with the XX chromosomes, they're pretty much set. Gender won't change any of that, and it seems it isn't something that is really intended to change any of it in the first place.

Point being, sex and gender are detached concepts.

For the first point-- "There are two genders, male and female, period". Riding along the mindset that sex and gender are the same thing, is it at least reasonable to question if there are only male and female humans? Who are these "intersex" people, then? I've yet to look in-depth into it myself, but it looks like it's possible to be biologically set with different chromosomes and physical/sexual characteristics than what's typically seen as strictly male or female. It might be worth some consideration, and I'm interested in getting familiar with the idea. It's not very common but certainly exists.

Second point-- "...for some reason people are making up more genders to fit into". With the consideration that gender's a mental thing regarding who the person associates themselves best as, it's a little easier for me to see why. Non-binary, for example. These are people who don't really find themselves to fit within what's seen in a "male" or "female". They don't associate themselves with any of it. I'm still confused by a lot of it. Again, I should probably do some further research.

A fair third point, in questioning the complicated nature of gender identity, and identifying as something only to switch between something else. I think it's pretty looked down upon even in the LGBTQ+ community. I'd doubt that the majority of those identifying as various genders would intend on doing something as such without decent reasoning, but it's not really fair to say it doesn't exist. I'd also think it's possible there are people who would mess around with this concept of multiple genders and don't really take it seriously, identifying as they wish for jokes, for fun, or publicity.

I'd say the surfacing concept of and culture surrounding gender identity has made things complicated. It's being made a little more well-known, for varying reasons, a lot of the time thanks to some drama of sorts. Conflict, conflict, conflict, amongst people who disapprove or even shit on others for identifying as something other than male or female, and the people who do indeed identify as some kind of gender from the multitude. It's kind of depressing.

To answer some stuff in the last paragraph, it should be somewhat simple.

Just ask. If you know someone and interact with them, and are unsure of who they identify as, afraid of having to assume things of them, ask.

But if that's kinda uncomfortable to do, then ehh, fair enough. It's also understandable to be conflicted regarding that decision, addressing them as they wish, considering that you may hold the reasoning that you find it ridiculous to disregard your own beliefs for the sake of their own whims, but it has seriously fucked with some people. I don't think it'd be a great idea to shit on others for identifying as they do.

So I dunno.

Best thing to do is research and develop a more solid opinion once fully informed, I suppose.

I still question it. But so far, out of the reasoning I'm weighing, a lot of it seems understandable. I just need to look at this further.

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same question!

Same question since I'm only stating my opinions on this.

So I've done a little bit more research on the matter. And it would seems to me that this whole gender identity is more of a mental illness.
Statistically, transgender people has a 40% suicide rate regardless of surgery. Some people says it's due to the pressure of society, but it doesn't make sense to me. That reasoning could be valid 30 or 50 years ago but not now. People nowadays are really open minded and would treat others with decency regardless of their gender identity at least most of the time.

And so it would be more reasonable to think that it's more of a mental disease, and to some people, a social trend.
But the thing is, I don't think having multiple gender identities would help transgender people in anyway. Since even now, with a better, more open minded society and with gender identity, the suicide rate didn't dropped. It stayed still.

I have a cousin and he had depression and got into drugs. Years of drug abuse made him mentally ill. I visit him from time to time and sometimes he would act reasonably sane but one time he kept telling everyone that the bed he's sleeping on is breathing and the ceiling is talking to him, telling him to steal bars of soap.
Should I then tell him yes, the ceiling is talking to him and his bed is breathing? How would that help him?

I feel the same way with transgender people. I don't think changing facts about biology would help them in any way.

I have no problem with people identifying as whatever gender they want. But I will not change how I perceive facts because of them.

I don't know and I don't care. You do you.
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Train or plane?

T r a i n.

Does liking traps make you gay?

Yes.

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What is the answer to life, the universe and everything?

The answer to everything we can see around us? Look at a wooden chair. Where did it come from? The forest? And where did the trees come from? It's a game of connect the dots that will trace back to the creation of the universe and we won't come close to finishing in our current time as there are many undiscovered and unexplained phenomena that scientists still find stunning and unfathomable. As for our lives, it's really a matter of what you see it as. Life is indeed a question. Why do we have it, what are we doing and so on. For me, answers will vary due to the different interpretations of life and it's typical formula and processes (doing well for yourself in your family, education, profession etc), but it's too soon for me to give my opinion as I'm still a student. I do apologize if I have not answered your question. I myself haven't put much thought into my life yet, I'll work on it closer to adulthood.

What was your favorite part of primary (or elementary) school?

my favorite part were these marathons where all the classes got together to walk in just a giant circle, every lap you would take got you closer to a goal, people also dressed up in their class colors and music played like you were at a party, pretty fun but also very tiring and hot since it's california

what place would you like to visit outside of the country you're currently living in?

I kinda really want to visit LA, but also Brussels in a professional sense

Sq

In terms of flying, I've been to Hong Kong, Seoul and Tokyo. I'm going to Ipoh in 3 weeks as well. I'd like to go to Amsterdam in the Netherlands, Iceland or Los Angeles. I haven't really decided on other locations, I'll need to find out more about what different countries have to offer.

What sports or other outdoor activities are you good at? I'm best at football. Stuff like gardening isn't common here in Singapore because 90% of people don't have gardens.

Table tennis and softball, participated on both of them during high school days (School intramurals or sports festival on anime???)

Same question

Though I'm not really a fan of sports, I've gotten pretty good at both Dodgeball and Badminton. They're somewhat enjoyable and I'd definitely play it with a real life friend if we were looking for something to do in out leisure time, provided that I cared enough to try something different.

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Your best experience last year?

Everyday best day

Sell me some sleep

not a question.

sleep deprivation sucks though.

realistically, there's not much i can do to help as i'd be shitty at life advice or anything in terms of motivation for your health, so just uhhh

sleep. take care of yourself.

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Achromalia wrote:

Your best experience last year?

Probably just taking home my great results from school. Your second year in high school here is tense because you need to do well to have a higher chance of choosing a good class for your last 2 years in school. You get to pick what subjects you'll take at the O levels, and those that do well get first dibs. I'm in my ideal combination and I'm still doing well in school now.

What is/was your worst subject? If you're still in school, are you trying to get better at it? If not, how do you feel about it now? For me, I was never really good at literature because I didn't read enough books to understand much of writer's craft. Fortunately, as stated earlier, I get to pick what I want to take, and I've dropped literature entirely.

Best subject is Programming. I'm venturing on my own and learning from books and tutorials much more than what my teacher gives me.
Worst subject is Filipino, my own language. I'd rather not.

Do you remember me?

Academically speaking, I struggle most in English thanks to the fast pacing that I can't seem to keep up with for the life of me. I'm essentially a grammar nazi, so the practical aspects, being grammar, punctuation, and other shit like that, are not a big deal for me. When it comes to reading comprehension, I'm fine, but if you're asking me to write an opinionated argumentative or persuasive essay on a topic I don't give much of a shit about, I'm going to really fall behind. I struggle with forming strong opinions, as I constantly look for new information to add before I can finalize my thoughts on something.

Am I trying to get better at it? In a sense, yeah, but considering the difficulty in fast-paced learning environments here in assignments where I'm inclined to take my time and be meticulous, I'd find it pretty stressful.


Great. I get ninja'd less than a minute before I post.

Kao wrote:

Do you remember me?

You seem somewhat familiar, I'd say I do. I haven't been around for much longer than 2 years though. Probably saw you around a few times at some point.

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What sort of conversation topics do you despise, like politics or religion, for example?

I don’t really care about the topic, but it depends on the situation and atmosphere. For example, I like discussing about politics, but not on a first date where we’re getting to know each other. I’m also pretty open with taboo topics as well, but not while we’re in a formal setting. Wow, reading this makes me realize how particular I am. Bottom line, I don’t mind the topic(however morbid or disgusting it may be) but I do mind when and where you bring it up.

Are you physically healthy?

Besides my systolic blood pressure being on the high side recently, I would consider myself just fine. I don't feel weakness in my body or anything like that. Well, I also seem to have trouble sleeping. Sometimes I'll sleep for less than 5 hours a night. In spite of all this, I've done pretty well in school. Maybe I just need to set aside more time for exercise if I can.

Same question, as I, for once, don't feel like thinking of another question to ask here right now.

I guess I am healthy. Although I am pretty weak physically.
I was always weak ever since I was a kid, I would get exhausted or sick pretty easily.
It's gotten better as I grow up and I don't get sick as easily anymore but I'm still physically weak compared to other people my age.

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Same question.

to an extent I suppose, I don't normally get sick on regular occasions. i often fell fairly well. the only problems I really is my stamina when doing normal everday excercize. I do intend on doing tennis practice over the summer so it might help a bit. other than that I would say i'm fairly healthy

same question I guess

I'm average, I guess. I don't have any noteworthy diseases and I'm not overweight, so that's nice, actually went down two pants sizes recently.

What would you consider to be your biggest accidental blunder?

Flipping off an... Aunt?
I don't even remember the connexion between my parents and the couple. Maybe it's the wife of one of my father's brother.
(I'm pretty sure my mother isn't related to any of them, which leaves my father as the only hint.)

Well, for the context, I was a child, doing some mathematics with them in their(?) shop. ("Vacation trip", "Playing around"...)
Can't remember what I was calculating, but I guess it was a substraction, since I counted down, but in quite an irregular fashion (I mean, I ended up with only the middle one, standing . .)


Is it great to not live in the capital of a country? (Trying to have you promote yours.)
If you live in the capital: how is it?

I live near to London, and have been there a few times. I don't like the crowds, but there are some interesting places. I've been to a place I don't like though - London Dungeons. It's a great place, if you're into that sort of stuff. Amazing acting and setup. You really feel like you're there. But it's not the sort of place for me. I loved going to the museums. However, I haven't been there very much. Maybe three times?

It's great for tourists, but I wouldn't like to live there.
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Same question

no idea. it's on the opposite coast, and i'm not aware of things over there.

as far as anything i can say, i'm really just comfortable where i am.

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did you ever have a real interest in going to a college or university? what affected or contributed to that?

I've always heard Asian students complain or "joke" about their parents pressuring or forcing them to attend a top-tier university. When I hear of the stress and pressure involved from my relatives, I actually find it thrilling. The more hardships and goals I have, the more I naturally thrive and push myself. The only gripe I have with attending an university is if I have to stay in state. I want to get away as far as possible.


What is the extent of emotional pain one could feel?

Dunno, I'm no expert

How to kill boredom

stalk meah and watch cyst vids

how2stayawake?

Drink caffeine before you get tired

Best conversational topic to get to know people?

I hadn't really figured it out.

So far, it's started often from my art or music, when it comes to school. It gives others something to talk about, I suppose. I normally don't initiate, so... yeah.

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SQ.

Start it with "i love you"

If a cockroach falls into water with soap, will the water be dirty or the cockroach be cleaned?