You haven't? Well, it might help to shed some light on the situation.
But asserting that generosity is charity is misled, at best. True generosity means to be purely altruistic. To put others before you as a reflex, not an assessment. Rarity always feels the need to explain her motives - hardly an altruistic gesture at all. Charity can - and often does - have ulterior motives. A sense of fullness or morality are common themes in that regard. "I do this because it makes me a good pony."
With regards to having standards - that's fine. It's your presentation to others that defines your character, though. Lifting your nose to the air and scoffing with a "hmph!" is as close to a literal definition of being a bitch as one can get. Rarity expresses herself in an aggressive, forward manner and, while to the point, does not take the feelings of others into account. That is why you see her backpedalling so often - to bandage the feelings she hurts, rather than preventing any damage from the get-go.
But asserting that generosity is charity is misled, at best. True generosity means to be purely altruistic. To put others before you as a reflex, not an assessment. Rarity always feels the need to explain her motives - hardly an altruistic gesture at all. Charity can - and often does - have ulterior motives. A sense of fullness or morality are common themes in that regard. "I do this because it makes me a good pony."
With regards to having standards - that's fine. It's your presentation to others that defines your character, though. Lifting your nose to the air and scoffing with a "hmph!" is as close to a literal definition of being a bitch as one can get. Rarity expresses herself in an aggressive, forward manner and, while to the point, does not take the feelings of others into account. That is why you see her backpedalling so often - to bandage the feelings she hurts, rather than preventing any damage from the get-go.
I can't help myself. 
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