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Khelly vs Railey

posted 2016-06-16T20:01:58+00:00

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Railey2

Joined February 2015

Railey2 2016-06-17T13:01:37+00:00

he doesn't get why you are fed up, because he himself would never be fed up after only 5 hours. He can't make this mental leap, as it seems. The keywords here are"emotional intelligence", and to be more exact: "empathy". He lacks emotional intelligence in that he has troubles to emphasize with others by seeing things from a perspective that is not his own.

And yes, your expectations of how much attention you get might legitimately be too high. Sometimes people just don't see a message. The extreme of your stance is that he should always reply within 10 minutes of you writing him. Maybe you are too close to that extreme for him to be completely comfortable with you.

Did you consider that you might have to accept that he wants a bit more distance than you?

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T13:05:41+00:00

I considered it but since I'm known for overreacting when it comes to those things I didn't believe it. Also instead of hearing it feom him we got this instead so there was no chance. I actually bothered hos friend a out it the same day because I didn't want to bring it up to Nick.

1. Because I didn't wnat to bother him
2. Because I didn't want to make him think there's a problem
3. Because I was probably overreacting to the whole "Nick probably hates me and doesn't care" thing I thought of when it did seem he was ignoring me

The thhing is, no responses on anything anywhere for hours at a time WHILE I SEE HIM move from game to game is really fucking grating. I previously had been tolerating it for awhile since I wanted him to enjoy whatever he was doing and not annoy hom but obviously I couldn't stand that for long. Hell you can even see it in the top two lines of the paste since I copy pasted wrongly

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Jinn

Joined May 2015

Jinn 2016-06-17T13:06:19+00:00

getting intense

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DeletedUser_7520443 2016-06-17T13:09:41+00:00

Kisses wrote:
Round 1

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T13:10:16+00:00

Both of you haven't read because if you did you'd realise this isn't a vs st all

Railey2

Joined February 2015

Railey2 2016-06-17T13:15:59+00:00

problems aren't necessarily a bad thing in relationships. With the right mindset, they can be something to bond over. I agree that you overreacted a bit, but I also think that he should take your feelings more seriously than he did, so it goes both ways.

Generally, I found that assuming the worst ("He doesn't talk to me for a while -> He ignores me. He hates me now") is a very toxic and unhelpful strategy for leading successful relationships. Then again, I'm not as experienced as I make myself sound, so take that with a grain of salt. It makes sense to me though. If you assume the worst, that reflects in your words and actions with many negative implications for the relationship as a whole. It can feel like you're constantly faulting your partner. Try to be more confident, I guess? Although you should still talk about it when you think that something is wrong, but do so confidently and with a positive attitude. Your way of going about it was very insecure/expecting the worst.

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T13:19:53+00:00

I always expect the worst - one of the things I told his friend was "If I was more optimistic I'd say he was having too much fun and sinply forgetting about me"

After I logged off he instantly unmutualed me and I told him that he sidnt have to do that because I'm still his friend. He said "I' so sorry" and then soon after took me away from everything else. It makes me feel I was right in my assumptions if he'd do that so easily.

Railey2

Joined February 2015

Railey2 2016-06-17T13:29:04+00:00

he does seem to have a lot of shit going on. Maybe he just needs a break or something.

We tend to overestimate the effect we have on others, and also tend to overly blame ourselves or blame others when things go in the wrong direction. Just try to talk to him in a week or so, when his mood and maybe even the circumstances changed for him. Good luck man

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T13:30:00+00:00

I have no means of doing so as I assume he's already ig ored me on osu (and he hasnt been on osu in 3 days which is strange)

Im going back to bed

2015071

2015071 2016-06-17T13:50:17+00:00

OMG DRAMA!!!

What's up Osunation I'm your host killer 2015071star let's get riiiiiooooggggghhhhhhhttttttttt INTO THE NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AutoMedic

Joined April 2014

AutoMedic 2016-06-17T13:57:43+00:00

2015071 wrote:
OMG DRAMA!!!

What's up Osunation I'm your host killer 2015071star let's get riiiiiooooggggghhhhhhhttttttttt INTO THE NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

jesus fucking christ end me

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Meah

Joined November 2014

Meah 2016-06-17T14:00:45+00:00

When your bestfriend broke up with his/her couple.

Foxtrot

Joined April 2012

Foxtrot 2016-06-17T14:03:11+00:00

Khelly wrote:
I have no means of doing so as I assume he's already ig ored me on osu (and he hasnt been on osu in 3 days which is strange)

Im going back to bed

I'm sorry he let you down, Khelly. Hope you feel better later on.

FuZ

Joined January 2011

FuZ 2016-06-17T14:07:53+00:00

he did the right thing

Rurree

Joined June 2014

Rurree 2016-06-17T14:16:00+00:00

2015071 wrote:
OMG DRAMA!!!

What's up Osunation I'm your host killer 2015071star let's get riiiiiooooggggghhhhhhhttttttttt INTO THE NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is there more of people like you in Hong Kong?

2015071

2015071 2016-06-17T15:21:01+00:00

Rurree wrote:
2015071 wrote:
OMG DRAMA!!!

What's up Osunation I'm your host killer 2015071star let's get riiiiiooooggggghhhhhhhttttttttt INTO THE NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Is there more of people like you in Hong Kong?

No

I'm an endangered species

Railey2

Joined February 2015

Railey2 2016-06-17T15:22:11+00:00

holy crap 2015 you are 19 years old

2015071

2015071 2016-06-17T15:37:25+00:00

Railey2 wrote:
holy crap 2015 you are 19 years old

k...?

AutoMedic

Joined April 2014

AutoMedic 2016-06-17T15:46:50+00:00

Railey2 wrote:
holy crap 2015 you are 19 years old

you know I've seen 23 year olds that are worse than him

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FuZ

Joined January 2011

FuZ 2016-06-17T15:52:33+00:00

AutoMedic wrote:
Railey2 wrote:
holy crap 2015 you are 19 years old
you know I've seen 23 year olds that are worse than him

is it me

Railey2

Joined February 2015

Railey2 2016-06-17T15:53:48+00:00

when I see people having lolis as avatars I always assume they are younger. Cause when you pick a loli you must be a loli.

AutoMedic is 21, aha

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T16:48:57+00:00

VHS wrote:
Khelly wrote:
I have no means of doing so as I assume he's already ig ored me on osu (and he hasnt been on osu in 3 days which is strange)

Im going back to bed
I'm sorry he let you down, Khelly. Hope you feel better later on.

Fuck

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T17:26:29+00:00

Hes playing osu again so that's good

Yuudachi Kai wrote:
going into 3rd relationship
lets not mess this one up!

fml

Aomi

Joined August 2013

Aomi 2016-06-17T17:45:19+00:00

3rd time's the charm

You beefing with my enemy does not make you a friend of me.

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T17:46:17+00:00

Apparently I have none

Aomi

Joined August 2013

Aomi 2016-06-17T17:56:58+00:00

Khelly wrote:
He never responded and 5 or so hours later I was fed up

Khelly wrote:
I have no means of doing so as I assume he's already ig ored me on osu (and he hasnt been on osu in 3 days which is strange)

Im going back to bed

so you were fed up but you have no means of contacting him even though you want him back?
why don't you just give it a week?

You beefing with my enemy does not make you a friend of me.

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T17:59:00+00:00

Being fed up is something conpletely different and happened before I now have no means.

Honestly I don't believe no matter how much time passes he'a not going to say anything to me so I'm just stuck here crying about it for some period of time.

Aomi

Joined August 2013

Aomi 2016-06-17T18:03:09+00:00

you won't know unless you try
giving up that easily isn't something you should resort to
just try god damn it
if you love him that much, at least try

You beefing with my enemy does not make you a friend of me.

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T18:04:41+00:00

Where am I gonna do that

FuZ

Joined January 2011

FuZ 2016-06-17T18:08:03+00:00

are you crying over someone that you know for only 1 month and never met irl? or did i miss something

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T18:08:59+00:00

He changed his profile desc

SQUARE JUMP YOU SAY?

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VGiplnH4mbM

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T18:09:54+00:00

FuZ wrote:
are you crying over someone that you know for only 1 month and never met irl? or did i miss something

No you missed something

FuZ

Joined January 2011

FuZ 2016-06-17T18:10:46+00:00

then what did i miss, i read all the pages but i dont know shit about that guy

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T18:12:12+00:00

FuZ wrote:
then what did i miss, i read all the pages but i dont know shit about that guy

How close we live

Wouldn't suprise me you missed it given your shitty English

FuZ

Joined January 2011

FuZ 2016-06-17T18:16:59+00:00

where is it mentionned

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T18:17:56+00:00

It's not but I expect you to know it anyways

Aomi

Joined August 2013

Aomi 2016-06-17T18:24:40+00:00

Khelly wrote:
Where am I gonna do that

Khelly wrote:
FuZ wrote:
then what did i miss

How close we live

there you go

You beefing with my enemy does not make you a friend of me.

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T18:31:25+00:00

I'm too afraid to talk to the guy even so no

FuZ

Joined January 2011

FuZ 2016-06-17T18:35:04+00:00

cute

Yuudachi-kun

Joined August 2014

Yuudachi-kun 2016-06-17T18:36:13+00:00

You never thought anything I did was cute so don't do that now motherfucker

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