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Railey2
he doesn't get why you are fed up, because he himself would never be fed up after only 5 hours. He can't make this mental leap, as it seems. The keywords here are"emotional intelligence", and to be more exact: "empathy". He lacks emotional intelligence in that he has troubles to emphasize with others by seeing things from a perspective that is not his own.

And yes, your expectations of how much attention you get might legitimately be too high. Sometimes people just don't see a message. The extreme of your stance is that he should always reply within 10 minutes of you writing him. Maybe you are too close to that extreme for him to be completely comfortable with you.

Did you consider that you might have to accept that he wants a bit more distance than you?
Yuudachi-kun
I considered it but since I'm known for overreacting when it comes to those things I didn't believe it. Also instead of hearing it feom him we got this instead so there was no chance. I actually bothered hos friend a out it the same day because I didn't want to bring it up to Nick.

1. Because I didn't wnat to bother him
2. Because I didn't want to make him think there's a problem
3. Because I was probably overreacting to the whole "Nick probably hates me and doesn't care" thing I thought of when it did seem he was ignoring me

The thhing is, no responses on anything anywhere for hours at a time WHILE I SEE HIM move from game to game is really fucking grating. I previously had been tolerating it for awhile since I wanted him to enjoy whatever he was doing and not annoy hom but obviously I couldn't stand that for long. Hell you can even see it in the top two lines of the paste since I copy pasted wrongly
Jinn
getting intense
QuillGill

Kisses wrote:

Round 1

Yuudachi-kun
Both of you haven't read because if you did you'd realise this isn't a vs st all
Railey2
problems aren't necessarily a bad thing in relationships. With the right mindset, they can be something to bond over. I agree that you overreacted a bit, but I also think that he should take your feelings more seriously than he did, so it goes both ways.

Generally, I found that assuming the worst ("He doesn't talk to me for a while -> He ignores me. He hates me now") is a very toxic and unhelpful strategy for leading successful relationships. Then again, I'm not as experienced as I make myself sound, so take that with a grain of salt. It makes sense to me though. If you assume the worst, that reflects in your words and actions with many negative implications for the relationship as a whole. It can feel like you're constantly faulting your partner. Try to be more confident, I guess? Although you should still talk about it when you think that something is wrong, but do so confidently and with a positive attitude. Your way of going about it was very insecure/expecting the worst.
Yuudachi-kun
I always expect the worst - one of the things I told his friend was "If I was more optimistic I'd say he was having too much fun and sinply forgetting about me"

After I logged off he instantly unmutualed me and I told him that he sidnt have to do that because I'm still his friend. He said "I' so sorry" and then soon after took me away from everything else. It makes me feel I was right in my assumptions if he'd do that so easily.
Railey2
he does seem to have a lot of shit going on. Maybe he just needs a break or something.

We tend to overestimate the effect we have on others, and also tend to overly blame ourselves or blame others when things go in the wrong direction. Just try to talk to him in a week or so, when his mood and maybe even the circumstances changed for him. Good luck man
Yuudachi-kun
I have no means of doing so as I assume he's already ig ored me on osu (and he hasnt been on osu in 3 days which is strange)

Im going back to bed
2015071
OMG DRAMA!!!

What's up Osunation I'm your host killer 2015071star let's get riiiiiooooggggghhhhhhhttttttttt INTO THE NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AutoMedic

2015071 wrote:

OMG DRAMA!!!

What's up Osunation I'm your host killer 2015071star let's get riiiiiooooggggghhhhhhhttttttttt INTO THE NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
jesus fucking christ end me
Meah
When your bestfriend broke up with his/her couple.
Foxtrot

Khelly wrote:

I have no means of doing so as I assume he's already ig ored me on osu (and he hasnt been on osu in 3 days which is strange)

Im going back to bed
I'm sorry he let you down, Khelly. Hope you feel better later on.
FuZ
he did the right thing
Madvillain

2015071 wrote:

OMG DRAMA!!!

What's up Osunation I'm your host killer 2015071star let's get riiiiiooooggggghhhhhhhttttttttt INTO THE NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Is there more of people like you in Hong Kong?
2015071

Rurree wrote:

2015071 wrote:

OMG DRAMA!!!

What's up Osunation I'm your host killer 2015071star let's get riiiiiooooggggghhhhhhhttttttttt INTO THE NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Is there more of people like you in Hong Kong?
No

I'm an endangered species
Railey2
holy crap 2015 you are 19 years old
2015071

Railey2 wrote:

holy crap 2015 you are 19 years old
k...?
AutoMedic

Railey2 wrote:

holy crap 2015 you are 19 years old
you know I've seen 23 year olds that are worse than him
FuZ

AutoMedic wrote:

Railey2 wrote:

holy crap 2015 you are 19 years old
you know I've seen 23 year olds that are worse than him
is it me
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