NekoLumi wrote:
That's a dumb suggestion imo, you should be happy when somebody or someone gifts you something !
I can't understand theses persons who dislikes gifts from their friends etc.. :c
I can't understand people who don't care whether your friend's/admirer's money was
literally wasted on you as if thrown into a trash bin.
Neither do I understand people who don't care whether their gifts actually fit or benefit the person who receives them, but only seem to care about the fact that they gave them
something of some sort of description without a care on whether they actually want or use it when they could have literally gotten them something that they would actually enjoy and that would actually benefit them in some shape or form.
This is not a one-sided thing. This is both about choice, appreciation and respect.
Nobody is offended if people offer to do them some good, but seeing people literally
waste money on you, like Aunt Betsy gifting you a woolen long-sleeve when you are allergic to wool instead of just asking you about it beforehand, that is what sucks.
The satisfaction of giving is a real thing, but giving somebody something they do not enjoy just because you think "I gave them something, now I feel good about myself for a day" isn't helping anyone.
If you want to do people something good, learn to communicate and get to know them first - or, alternatively, give them the chance to get back to you and refund/turn in their gift.
Is the long-sleeve too small? Go back and exchange it for a size that fits you.
Would you rather have gotten the shirt in another colour? Go back with the receipt and swap it out.
Nobody that seriously wants to do you good will be offended at you wanting to have a gift that you want - if it's the wrong material, size, colour etc., you might not even make
any use of it in the first place, and what kind of a gift is that?
That's why many shops offer refunds on christmas presents around that time of the year - keep the receipt, and you can exchange it.
A gift does not lose meaning just because the recipient has a say in what it is, or whether they want it in that shape or form or not.
That is why people gift others coupons, or shop discounts, or actually include the receipt when handing over the present - because they want their loved ones to get what they want first and foremost, as opposed to "take what you get, you piece of shit, you should be
thankful I even thought of you".