according to vampire the masquerade, its a completely different race, children of cainPatatitta wrote:
wait, are vampires a different species from humans altogether?, I have always seen vampires as human, just very quirky humansMistressRemilia wrote:
Except for me, I'm a vampire.Polyspora wrote:
huge tip: girls are also human beings
But yes, this. We're really not that different than the rest of you ^_^;
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MistressRemilia wrote:
You can also offer us a piece cheese.
cheese is indeed very good, gorgonzola is just perfectionKarmine wrote:
MistressRemilia wrote:
You can also offer us a piece cheese.
shit I was about to answer winny but he deleted the post lol
anyway, is people having different personalities and experiences a barrier to create deep relations for you? (genuine question, please dont be mad at my post and report it sir)
anyway, is people having different personalities and experiences a barrier to create deep relations for you? (genuine question, please dont be mad at my post and report it sir)
Yes. Quite frankly, yes, because I can't relate to their experiences, they can't relate to mine, thus the relationship goes nowhere.Polyspora wrote:
shit I was about to answer winny but he deleted the post lol
anyway, is people having different personalities and experiences a barrier to create deep relations for you? (genuine question, please dont be mad at my post and report it sir)
sharing experiences is pretty important, thats how learning usually goes. this reminds me a lot of lemongrab, you should take a look at itWinnyace wrote:
Yes. Quite frankly, yes, because I can't relate to their experiences, they can't relate to mine, thus the relationship goes nowhere.Polyspora wrote:
shit I was about to answer winny but he deleted the post lol
anyway, is people having different personalities and experiences a barrier to create deep relations for you? (genuine question, please dont be mad at my post and report it sir)
Oh, the character from Adventure Time that screamed a lot and was a lemon.Polyspora wrote:
sharing experiences is pretty important, thats how learning usually goes. this reminds me a lot of lemongrab, you should take a look at itWinnyace wrote:
Yes. Quite frankly, yes, because I can't relate to their experiences, they can't relate to mine, thus the relationship goes nowhere.Polyspora wrote:
shit I was about to answer winny but he deleted the post lol
anyway, is people having different personalities and experiences a barrier to create deep relations for you? (genuine question, please dont be mad at my post and report it sir)
Also, just so everybody has the reply that prompted Poly to ask me the question I did, here's what I said, roughly.
I personally believe that women are different from men in just about every possible way. From the expected mannerisms, to the way you interact with things, all are different. Yes, you all are human begins, just like us, but you're different and that is harder than you might think for some of us.MistressRemilia wrote:
But yes, this. We're really not that different than the rest of you ^_^;
Well, after taking some tests online, they hint towards me being on the autism spectrum. I got the score 34 on this test and then following results on this test.Winnyace wrote:
Yes. Quite frankly, yes, because I can't relate to their experiences, they can't relate to mine, thus the relationship goes nowhere.Polyspora wrote:
shit I was about to answer winny but he deleted the post lol
anyway, is people having different personalities and experiences a barrier to create deep relations for you? (genuine question, please dont be mad at my post and report it sir)
Over 32 for the first test indicates being on the spectrum. Over 65 for the second test indicates being on the spectrum. Maybe I'm not, I will have to follow it up with a real doctor here.
yeah but he is a lot more deep than that, on the show he actually faces the same dilemma as you, to the point of creating a clone of himself. like I said, take a look.Winnyace wrote:
Oh, the character from Adventure Time that screamed a lot and was a lemon.Polyspora wrote:
sharing experiences is pretty important, thats how learning usually goes. this reminds me a lot of lemongrab, you should take a look at itWinnyace wrote:
Yes. Quite frankly, yes, because I can't relate to their experiences, they can't relate to mine, thus the relationship goes nowhere.Polyspora wrote:
shit I was about to answer winny but he deleted the post lol
anyway, is people having different personalities and experiences a barrier to create deep relations for you? (genuine question, please dont be mad at my post and report it sir)Also, just so everybody has the reply that prompted Poly to ask me the question I did, here's what I said, roughly.I personally believe that women are different from men in just about every possible way. From the expected mannerisms, to the way you interact with things, all are different. Yes, you all are human begins, just like us, but you're different and that is harder than you might think for some of us.MistressRemilia wrote:
But yes, this. We're really not that different than the rest of you ^_^;
this has nothing to do with autism. those websites will always hint to autism if you have a glimpse of social awkwardness, if you're really worried about it, visit a professional to take the tests.Winnyace wrote:
Well, after taking some tests online, they hint towards me being on the autism spectrum. I got the score 34 on this test and then following results on this test.Winnyace wrote:
Yes. Quite frankly, yes, because I can't relate to their experiences, they can't relate to mine, thus the relationship goes nowhere.Polyspora wrote:
shit I was about to answer winny but he deleted the post lol
anyway, is people having different personalities and experiences a barrier to create deep relations for you? (genuine question, please dont be mad at my post and report it sir)
Over 32 for the first test indicates being on the spectrum. Over 65 for the second test indicates being on the spectrum. Maybe I'm not, I will have to follow it up with a real doctor here.
yup, can confirm this.Polyspora wrote:
this has nothing to do with autism. those websites will always hint to autism if you have a glimpse of social awkwardness, if you're really worried about it, visit a professional to take the tests.Winnyace wrote:
Well, after taking some tests online, they hint towards me being on the autism spectrum. I got the score 34 on this test and then following results on this test.Winnyace wrote:
Yes. Quite frankly, yes, because I can't relate to their experiences, they can't relate to mine, thus the relationship goes nowhere.Polyspora wrote:
shit I was about to answer winny but he deleted the post lol
anyway, is people having different personalities and experiences a barrier to create deep relations for you? (genuine question, please dont be mad at my post and report it sir)
Over 32 for the first test indicates being on the spectrum. Over 65 for the second test indicates being on the spectrum. Maybe I'm not, I will have to follow it up with a real doctor here.
quite literally did the same test (the first one), and i got 29 despite me having an actual diagnosis, which apparently means that i'm not (or probably aren't) autistic according to the site.
I will talk with my parents to visit a psychiatrist for an actual autism test.
yeah do that, just be aware that it takes a whole year.
God damn!!! I will see how shit is here.Polyspora wrote:
yeah do that, just be aware that it takes a whole year.
yeah, its usually because she first needs to know you, to separate personality from divergence.Winnyace wrote:
God damn!!! I will see how shit is here.Polyspora wrote:
yeah do that, just be aware that it takes a whole year.
it also has an IQ test (the real one lol)
1) you wait for her to get a bf, even better if he is toxic
2) they will at one point break up and she will be misreable
3) youre gonna be there and comfort her, build a relationship
4) when the time is right, you are gonna confess your feelings
5) she will say that you feel like a brother to her/that she wants you to just to stay friends
6) lowkey shoot her 728 times
2) they will at one point break up and she will be misreable
3) youre gonna be there and comfort her, build a relationship
4) when the time is right, you are gonna confess your feelings
5) she will say that you feel like a brother to her/that she wants you to just to stay friends
6) lowkey shoot her 728 times
you show every girl you know all your knowledge in vtuber lore until one of them doesnt run
talk to gals without trying to make them your gf it's really that simple
IDK I am interested in dudes lmao
thats not the point of the thread!xch00F wrote:
talk to gals without trying to make them your gf it's really that simple
you cant make em your gf they just start being your gf it's really that simplePolyspora wrote:
thats not the point of the thread!xch00F wrote:
talk to gals without trying to make them your gf it's really that simple
I actually have a decently funny story regarding this.xch00F wrote:
talk to gals without trying to make them your gf it's really that simple
In uni, there was a girl that came next to me during one class in the first week. We began talking. About a month later, we are on decent terms. One time during a break, a group including me and her, began talking about relationships, for a reason I don't remember. She begins saying some grade A+ gold digger shit in front of multiple people, including me. I do show that I'm disgusted and upset, not because I liked her, but because she seemed so shallow as a person and didn't even realize it. That spiraled down to me being very sad about the situation, visibly so. After months of not talking to her, I learn from my current group in uni that she said to others that I've tried to hit on her, which is false. I was being respectful, in my opinion, never going off limits and trying to be friendly and nice to be around. I think that incident of me being visibly upset about what she said was the thing that made her think that, but still, lol.
i might actually ask how to get a boyfriend just to be a foil
okayWinnyace wrote:
I actually have a decently funny story regarding this.xch00F wrote:
talk to gals without trying to make them your gf it's really that simple
In uni, there was a girl that came next to me during one class in the first week. We began talking. About a month later, we are on decent terms. One time during a break, a group including me and her, began talking about relationships, for a reason I don't remember. She begins saying some grade A+ gold digger shit in front of multiple people, including me. I do show that I'm disgusted and upset, not because I liked her, but because she seemed so shallow as a person and didn't even realize it. That spiraled down to me being very sad about the situation, visibly so. After months of not talking to her, I learn from my current group in uni that she said to others that I've tried to hit on her, which is false. I was being respectful, in my opinion, never going off limits and trying to be friendly and nice to be around. I think that incident of me being visibly upset about what she said was the thing that made her think that, but still, lol.
show even a crumb of interest, whatsoeverz0z wrote:
alright, how to get a boyfriend?
xch00F wrote:
talk to gals without trying to make them your gf it's really that simple
Wow This Person Really Asked This HERE Of All Places !!! ... xD
Hate To Burst Your Bubble Little Fella , But If You Have To Ask... Then Its Already Looking Bad~ :[ XD
Best Regards,
DarkBahamut87
Hate To Burst Your Bubble Little Fella , But If You Have To Ask... Then Its Already Looking Bad~ :[ XD
Best Regards,
DarkBahamut87
Serious talk
Getting a gf is quite hard. All you can do is to leave the house and meet some girl in a bar, school, church, conventions etc.. anywhere and try to make them interested from you. And the biggest rule is not to be a weird guy. Even though you might fail, doesn’t mean you have to give up. If you want to win them back, then let it. Just learn the mistakes and if it’s too much, take a break and talk with your close friends or family. (But im just rambling like some guy from youtube or tiktok or smth). So basically, just be yourself.
Getting a gf is quite hard. All you can do is to leave the house and meet some girl in a bar, school, church, conventions etc.. anywhere and try to make them interested from you. And the biggest rule is not to be a weird guy. Even though you might fail, doesn’t mean you have to give up. If you want to win them back, then let it. Just learn the mistakes and if it’s too much, take a break and talk with your close friends or family. (But im just rambling like some guy from youtube or tiktok or smth). So basically, just be yourself.
OH SHIT, aireu posting reminded me of something: dont get your gf online.
too late i already got myself a hot gf from argentina on habbo hotel and i'm on my way to buenos aires as we speak
preparing my best che boludo impression wish me luck
preparing my best che boludo impression wish me luck
I think this is a proper place to share this story:Serraionga wrote:
too late i already got myself a hot gf from argentina on habbo hotel and i'm on my way to buenos aires as we speak
preparing my best che boludo impression wish me luck
once I got a "gf" on transformice.
with the rizz of "hey you wanna date?" "yeah sure."
I was 8 years old (telling her I was 18) and she was around 14?
iirc it got as far as sharing phone numbers and uh whatsapp contacts
it was all fine until my parents discovered it and told me to cease it (they thought it was a pedophile)
so I just ghosted her lol
the sad part is, she was taking it very seriously, even sharing personal pictures (not that personal) about their experiences in life, for one day to just get ghosted lmao
so yeah, never edate.
for habbo hotel, I only have memories of getting scammed.
I'm going to be speaking out of my ass here, based on my own experiences, because I didn't have a GF, I don't have one and I am struggling with the idea that I might never have one.Aireunaeus wrote:
Serious talk
Getting a gf is quite hard. All you can do is to leave the house and meet some girl in a bar, school, church, conventions etc.. anywhere and try to make them interested from you. And the biggest rule is not to be a weird guy. Even though you might fail, doesn’t mean you have to give up. If you want to win them back, then let it. Just learn the mistakes and if it’s too much, take a break and talk with your close friends or family. (But im just rambling like some guy from youtube or tiktok or smth). So basically, just be yourself.
Frankly, this isn't really all that good of an advice. Circumstances regarding one's social skills, mental health, environment, etc. affect their ability to go talk to a girl and attempt to get a date. For example, going to a bar here to hit on girls is on the same level of impossible as stopping time for me. At university, I have quite a hard time talking to most girls. I was able to talk to some of them because they saw I was more shy and introverted and they made an effort to make it easy for me to engage, and I'm extremely thankful for them for doing so. Some girls, in fact, I believe most, won't do that, for a variety of reasons.
If a girl rejects you, most of the time, you can't learn anything from it. She can reject you for a multitude of reasons, most of them stemming simply from the fact she didn't enjoy being around you, even if you weren't weird and forceful. Thus, what can you extract from that? Nothing, besides that the girl you just asked isn't interested.
Now, your advice isn't wrong, but it requires more than just going out. I'm going to assume that OP asked this seriously. If they did, they are likely struggling with talking to girls. Forcing themselves to interact with girls will likely damage their already low self-esteem regarding this. Thus, this isn't the approach I believe one in my situation should take. The approach here is a bit more complex than just going to talk to girls. This is a loop that you can't really break out of it by sheer brute force.
Since I'm in the same bucket as OP, here are the things, I believe, I should do to get a girlfriend:
- Realize that a romantic relationship isn't that important: because it isn't. It is nice, it adds a lot to one's life, but it isn't the end all, be all. There are many other things someone could do with their life, especially if they're young. For example, instead of chasing for girls, I could study more and get a head start in my career, which will help out with the survival aspect of the relationship (because while girls earn their money nowadays, they certainly don't complain if their guy gets money too).
- Mend and cultivate the relationship with yourself and with others around you already: most likely, you're already surrounded by people. Family, friends, acquaintances. Attempt to deepen your connection with them. This is also great to see what they think about your struggles with finding love. Don't be afraid to open up. As for the relationship you have with yourself, well, you will need to sit down and talk with you and try to be understanding. If you aren't happy with yourself, you aren't going to find someone who will love you truly, in my opinion.
- Cultivate hobbies: Anything goes, just don't go for very weird stuff. Let it happen naturally too. Boredom will guide you through things and will spark curiosity in things better than you could by brute forcing it.
- Get out: It is a good tip, but do it with people you trust, not alone. Ask them if they can invite someone you don't know already. Boy, girl, doesn't matter. The idea is that you get to spend more time socially. If possible, don't force yourself to do things you don't want. If you don't like something, even if you didn't try it, it very likely won't work, so don't force it. Being true to yourself is better than forcing yourself. You only get one life, yes, but why waste it doing things you won't enjoy.
- Do stuff for your own sake: this ties to the relationship you have with yourself. For example, I'm a pretty chunky boy. I would like to slim up for my own health. It will help with girls too, absolutely, but if that's my main goal, it won't work. The spark for something should be internal, not external, wherever possible.
- Let it happen naturally: ultimately, after all of this, you may or may not find a girlfriend, however, not finding one won't be as bad as before, thus increasing your chances more to find someone. Going out in places you enjoy and being yourself, actively mending and strengthening your relationship with yourself and others, being more self-aware and honest with yourself and others will eventually lead you to someone and things will likely naturally click.
instructions unclear, bagged a boyfriend instead
Bro you def came to the wrong place. I asked OT the same thing a week back and my girl ended up biting me
Damn ass breaker I didn’t know you were freaky like thatabraker wrote:
Bro you def came to the wrong place. I asked OT the same thing a week back and my girl ended up biting me
meowabraker wrote:
Bro you def came to the wrong place. I asked OT the same thing a week back and my girl ended up biting me
I wish.Super Saiyan wrote:
instructions unclear, bagged a boyfriend instead
Turn your Waifu into an AI chatbot
Confess and make her say yes
Confess and make her say yes
serious talk this is probably incredibly difficult for the majority of people using these forums on a regular basis lol. not saying that this is good or bad, that's just the most likely situation for us nerds. if you're younger and in school then that's a good option. if you're older and not in school, don't go to schools to hit on girls.Aireunaeus wrote:
Serious talk
All you can do is to leave the house and meet some girl in a bar, school, church
conventionsthis is the most reasonable for most of us I think, but even then if you're going to a convention, alone, expressly to hit on people, you're going to seem very weird lmao. I know y'all are looking for a gf and trying not to spook them like a hunter does when they're tracking deer but women will know when you're being insincere, they can see through your bullshit.
teh problem with this advice is that it primarily comes from dudes who already go to bars on a routine basis or who are going to church every sunday. like you're gonna walk into some random ass bar, find some random ass gal sitting at the bar, sit next to them and start chatting them up like the bartender's not gonna notice you've never been there? like you're gonna go to some random ass church, find some random ass gal sitting in the pew and start chatting them up during service when the pastor's giving a sermon? good luck with those.
nah for nerds online you just talk with people online lol. make friends first, then meet up with them at a convention. maybe the person you've grown fond of will be there, maybe a friend introduces you to a different friend and you two hit it off. and besides, it's an anime convention, everyone there is at least a little weird so it's normal.
tldr talk to people like they're people, be sincere about it and you'll click with someone eventually. probably.
advice for particularly nerdy nerds
find a dnd group, optimally in person
friend into girl
girl into friend
kaboom ratatouille
girl into friend
kaboom ratatouille
what. i got mine in 1 monthPolyspora wrote:
yeah, its usually because she first needs to know you, to separate personality from divergence.Winnyace wrote:
God damn!!! I will see how shit is here.Polyspora wrote:
yeah do that, just be aware that it takes a whole year.
it also has an IQ test (the real one lol)
This is so deep.Kaaruumii wrote:
friend into girl
girl into friend
kaboom ratatouille
idk if this forum was made as a joke but if anyone's serious -
comning from a girl. i can't speak for every girl and every situation, but this is just my experience with my boyfriend and my friends who've been in long term relationships
relationships will come naturally. don't force anything. where to look to meet girls entirely depends on what you're into. for a clear example if you want a party girl you generally are not gonna easily find one at a library, it would be at a club or bar. join clubs and activities and work at a place that you will enjoy, and i'm sure there will be an interesting girl there who shares common interests
i feel this to be true on both sides but desperation can be seen by others, and potentially turn people away. girls do appreciate effort as it shows you care, but i know a lot of people are turned off by a person completely all over them 24/7. theres a balance, and that really depends on the person. at least the relationships that i've seen work out so far have been natural, without an insane effort from either side prior to dating. it just happens. over time instead of feeling more nervous around the person, u feel comfortable while also really wanting to get to know someone better, and u can very clearly feel that energy back. eventually someone will make the first move, but at that stage most successful couples i see are already comfortable with each other
things that are meant to be will come in clarity, not confusion. even if some of u are feeling down that you can't find a girl even after trying for a long time. it'll happen if you look in the right place and just be yourself
maybe i'm out of touch as i haven't been looking for a boyfriend for years, but from my observation and experience this is what i think
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comning from a girl. i can't speak for every girl and every situation, but this is just my experience with my boyfriend and my friends who've been in long term relationships
relationships will come naturally. don't force anything. where to look to meet girls entirely depends on what you're into. for a clear example if you want a party girl you generally are not gonna easily find one at a library, it would be at a club or bar. join clubs and activities and work at a place that you will enjoy, and i'm sure there will be an interesting girl there who shares common interests
i feel this to be true on both sides but desperation can be seen by others, and potentially turn people away. girls do appreciate effort as it shows you care, but i know a lot of people are turned off by a person completely all over them 24/7. theres a balance, and that really depends on the person. at least the relationships that i've seen work out so far have been natural, without an insane effort from either side prior to dating. it just happens. over time instead of feeling more nervous around the person, u feel comfortable while also really wanting to get to know someone better, and u can very clearly feel that energy back. eventually someone will make the first move, but at that stage most successful couples i see are already comfortable with each other
things that are meant to be will come in clarity, not confusion. even if some of u are feeling down that you can't find a girl even after trying for a long time. it'll happen if you look in the right place and just be yourself
maybe i'm out of touch as i haven't been looking for a boyfriend for years, but from my observation and experience this is what i think
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lol fr or at least don't come off as if you're trying toxch00F wrote:
talk to gals without trying to make them your gf it's really that simple
There are better places to ask.
That being said, being outgoing and confident is generally going to yield positive results and is relatively controllable.
That being said, being outgoing and confident is generally going to yield positive results and is relatively controllable.
first malta player I've seen, what language do you guys even speak over thereNaiad wrote:
There are better places to ask.
That being said, being outgoing and confident is generally going to yield positive results and is relatively controllable.
English and Maltese are both official languages and most people speak both, although a significant minority of native Maltese only speak one. English is probably 65-35 dominant if I had to hazard a guess.Polyspora wrote:
first malta player I've seen, what language do you guys even speak over thereNaiad wrote:
There are better places to ask.
That being said, being outgoing and confident is generally going to yield positive results and is relatively controllable.
Fun fact: Maltese is an arabic language (descended from Siculo-Arabic) and is the only official semitic EU language and the only arabic language written in a latin script.
My Maltese is quite limited.
is maltese something like an alternative to ovaltine
tho if you're not very
but go to the library anyway libraries rule
oh and since you mentioned it in your post, another good way to do this is your local public library lol. my nearby library hosts stuff all the time, book clubs, game nights, etc etc. this is probably going to tend towards older folk (like mid 20s and up), at least it does when I've gone, and obv ymmv depending on where you are, I'm in vegas, decently big city and there's always shit to do here otherwise.Shad0wStar wrote:
join clubs and activities
tho if you're not very
this might be out of the comfort zoneNaiad wrote:
outgoing and confident
but go to the library anyway libraries rule