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Do you think changing your given name is disrespectful to your parents?

Yes
31.69% 58
No
68.31% 125
Total votes: 183
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There is nothing disrespectful to be sought here. And if it was, I wouldn't care. If my name was really as bad so that I would have to go and change my name because I get teased and made fun of all the time I would consider that my parents did a pretty crappy job back then when they chose the name. And you wouldn't reward a crappy job with respect now, would you? I think not. I wouldn't, anyway.
What the real issue is though: it costs money to change your name. It shouldn't in my opinion. I mean, okay, it's certainly leading to a bloody mess with paperwork and bureaucracy when some people constantly change their names as they see fit, sure. So this would be the plus side of not having the opportunity to do it whenever you like without any cost. The downside however is that you are forced to live with that name and get called with that sound (as described well by the post above) all your life.
But then again, if you develop deeper relationships with people, you might be given a nickname (I, for once, like it better when people call me by my various nicknames, be it my internet nicknames or reallife nicks given to me at some point in life) or something. Most of the time I try to get people to call me "Socke" instead of my real name ("Socke" is the german word for "sock", don't ask where it comes from. It's just weird), which indicates I am less than happy with it. But on the other hand I do not care enough about this triviality of names that I'd consider changing it.

Really, aren't names trivial? I don't know 'bout you guys, but I don't have a problem to have a personal conversation with someone without mentioning his/her name even once. I don't need that. Of course, in terms of identification it is useful.

I think I digressed a bit.
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kyseka wrote:

so if u think its disrespectful to ur parents to change ur name

but dont like ur name

y not just add names
Because the old name's still there, I would presume.
Let's say your name's Felix and you genuinely hate it, changing it to Felix Matthias doesn't make it any better because there's still "Felix" in the name.
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Powersocke wrote:

kyseka wrote:

so if u think its disrespectful to ur parents to change ur name

but dont like ur name

y not just add names
Because the old name's still there, I would presume.
Let's say your name's Felix and you genuinely hate it, changing it to Felix Matthias doesn't make it any better because there's still "Felix" in the name.
what if u just tell people "matthias"
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kyseka wrote:

so if u think its disrespectful to ur parents to change ur name

but dont like ur name

y not just add names
I think some places have a limit on how many words you can have in your name / total length of your name. If there wasn't someone's gonna write a short story and set it as their name for fun.

Its also sensible to set restrictions on what you can or cannot set as your name obviously. Else i'm gonna go with "gj;DROP TABLE Name" or "gfj;DROP DATABASE Customers" and start signing up for anything where they store customer/user data on a database.

ontopic: i don't think its disrespectful. especially when your parents lack creativity (check here: http://howmanyofme.com/ )
however if they took the time to make a unique meaningful name maybe its a little disrespectful
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Well, you can always get your parents' consent. :)
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Sheepsticks wrote:

Well, you can always get your parents' consent. :)
Always? Damn, you sure have understanding parents.
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I don't really care too much if it is or not, you're the one who has to live with the name so change it to whatever you want.

I'll probably get mine changed, since for whatever reason my parents decided to give me both their last names in a annoying hyphenated version.
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You are the person that has to live with your name. Therefore, I vote no.
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I think it's a yes.
but don't make that stop you :3
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It depends, really. Some people change it even though it's good enough already. :3
By the way, do you have a nickname or something?
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Then again, there are always pseudonyms.

If you're a writer.
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I'm going to change my name to... Ilfri.
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My English name my parents gave me is seriously retarded. They didn't even speak English when they had me (parents are from China). I mean, I do go by a few nicknames on the Internet but not irl though. My teachers refuse to call me anything but my birth name which is embarrassing.

I rarely speak to my parents and they're usually away at work. Both of them don't get off until like 1 A.M. and they work just about 7 days a week.

I could care less if it's disrespectful to my parents. They didn't put any thought in choosing my name or help me when I got teased by it as a kid. Not to mention our relationship isn't good. If anything, it's like we're strangers.
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^tell us what it is den
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You don't see other people posting their RL name, do you?
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Frostei wrote:

You don't see other people posting their RL name, do you?
I have it on my profile, and even If it was a harsh name they gave me or even the most embarrassing, I wouldn't care because at least my parents named me and I was something to them that they cared of.
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Sulker wrote:

at least my parents named me
I wasn't aware there were parents who did not name their child(ren) even though they wanted them. "Hey Unnamed00252, give me that milk please."
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Frostei wrote:

My English name my parents gave me is seriously retarded. They didn't even speak English when they had me (parents are from China). I mean, I do go by a few nicknames on the Internet but not irl though. My teachers refuse to call me anything but my birth name which is embarrassing.

I rarely speak to my parents and they're usually away at work. Both of them don't get off until like 1 A.M. and they work just about 7 days a week.

I could care less if it's disrespectful to my parents. They didn't put any thought in choosing my name or help me when I got teased by it as a kid. Not to mention our relationship isn't good. If anything, it's like we're strangers.
poor frosty kun

*hugs*
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