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__scripting
301 posts
Joined February 2021
Topic Starter
__scripting
hey guys

it feels weird writing this, but im just curious if theres anyone out there with a similar experience to mine.
recently im feeling like mm losing 'social skills' i dont know how to describe it, but i realized that when i was at work and needed to talk to my superior and an embarrassing thing happened that also really surprised me.

my brain just melted

i changed every word i needed to say and created others too. like 'hi boss i nee wi hi how can help tha that... *pause* i need help with a task'
This is weird because i wasnt even nervous and this is becoming WAY more common than i expect. i had this brain melt episode with my grandmother and my mother too and idk why this is happening, my brain just freezes.
its really fun when it happens when im with my friends, but at other times its really frustrating

im not writing this just to seek help on the osu forums, but im just reporting this to see if there is anyone who has or had the same problem as me and hope (or not) to help each other just relaitng this

im not expecting a response to this post
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Nanofranne
692 posts
Joined May 2018
Nanofranne
Perfectly normal. You might just be type of guy that needs time to speak, in order to be clear and concise. You can take your time writing something, rectify any part you like and stuff but not with speaking in real time. That happened to me sometimes
Hydreigon
274 posts
Joined February 2020
Hydreigon
Thought this was post was more focused on social anxiety, i guess i had this problem too back then, where i make hiccups sometimes mid speech, but it aint so severe anymore since one of my topic in class was speech writing, i still get some errors, but it aint so bad most of the time, i guess my advice is to just keep practicing speaking, maybe like talking to your friends, and write down speeches and recite them.
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii
i can't really relate but this sounds a lot like one of the symptoms of social anxiety
GamlA
94 posts
Joined April 2022
GamlA
Right now, I can relate; I have this same problem talking to complete strangers.

Don't know how to help, but just thinking clearly about what you want to say before saying it helps, like Nanofranne said.
Patatitta
1,244 posts
Joined February 2020
Patatitta
In my life it has gone the opposite way, being very introverted as I was younger and progerssively learning how to be more social, so, can't really help in reverse lmao
Silencee4
3 posts
Joined April 2020
Silencee4
A couple years ago i'd totally relate to you since I had no self confidence in myself but I no longer struggle with that.

Best thing that helped me out is: meditating and being more calm as nervousness will cause you to have a brain overdrive.
kio_zz
1 post
Joined September 2021
kio_zz
Same
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii

kio_zz wrote:

Same
boccher pfp = social anxiety
soccersilly04
29 posts
Joined June 2021
soccersilly04
Just say cba anxiety buddy. You'll get in there eventually. My brain stops functioning too when I'm in a high-pressure situation similar to yours. Anxiety is no strong foe it's literally just your usual lvl 3 rattata. u think he's powerful but ur actually inflicted with dizziness (rattata's double cleave) and it's making u think otherwise. chug ur antidote (breath) and ur good to go again lad. just watch out for those ambushes. u got this >w< !
vaaylin
42 posts
Joined May 2021
vaaylin

Anaxii wrote:

i can't really relate but this sounds a lot like one of the symptoms of social anxiety
idk i have social anxiety and when this ever happends to me its in a panic and im aware of me being scared however op said theyre not nervous so i think it might be smth else
JLuca913 891
454 posts
Joined December 2022
JLuca913 891

vaaylin wrote:

Anaxii wrote:

i can't really relate but this sounds a lot like one of the symptoms of social anxiety
idk i have social anxiety and when this ever happends to me its in a panic and im aware of me being scared however op said theyre not nervous so i think it might be smth else
Happens to me too sometimes but only with friends or family

idk if i have social anxiety because i don't talk this way to people other than friends or family sometimes
__scripting
301 posts
Joined February 2021
Topic Starter
__scripting

vaaylin wrote:

Anaxii wrote:

i can't really relate but this sounds a lot like one of the symptoms of social anxiety
idk i have social anxiety and when this ever happends to me its in a panic and im aware of me being scared however op said theyre not nervous so i think it might be smth else
when im in a 'panic situation', i simply freeze and take some time to come back. but this confusion with words happens commonly at unexpecteds times, like -> im playing valheim with friends and im going warn them about making a portal -> 'hey. can you can made you portal thats me' (i had a laugh crisis after that bc in portuguese is way more funny)

i probably have social anxiety, but i think this 'brain melting' is a little more speech problem than social problems... idk
idk...
Gsun
Gsun

__scripting wrote:

hey guys

it feels weird writing this, but im just curious if theres anyone out there with a similar experience to mine.
recently im feeling like mm losing 'social skills' i dont know how to describe it, but i realized that when i was at work and needed to talk to my superior and an embarrassing thing happened that also really surprised me.

my brain just melted

i changed every word i needed to say and created others too. like 'hi boss i nee wi hi how can help tha that... *pause* i need help with a task'
This is weird because i wasnt even nervous and this is becoming WAY more common than i expect. i had this brain melt episode with my grandmother and my mother too and idk why this is happening, my brain just freezes.
its really fun when it happens when im with my friends, but at other times its really frustrating

im not writing this just to seek help on the osu forums, but im just reporting this to see if there is anyone who has or had the same problem as me and hope (or not) to help each other just relaitng this

im not expecting a response to this post
I'm more inept to understanding social cues and empathizing in a more abstract, vague sense, rather then having social anxiety, so I can't relate, sorry.
Seizuqi
10 posts
Joined July 2022
Seizuqi
Honestly im the opposite, i mostly don't make mistakes when talking, i make mistakes when listening.
its honestly hilarious sometimes but can also be a pain when im having a serious conversation lol.
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii

Seizuqi wrote:

Honestly im the opposite, i mostly don't make mistakes when talking, i make mistakes when listening.
its honestly hilarious sometimes but can also be a pain when im having a serious conversation lol.
You're exactly like me 😭😭😭😭😭
vaaylin
42 posts
Joined May 2021
vaaylin

__scripting wrote:

vaaylin wrote:

Anaxii wrote:

i can't really relate but this sounds a lot like one of the symptoms of social anxiety
idk i have social anxiety and when this ever happends to me its in a panic and im aware of me being scared however op said theyre not nervous so i think it might be smth else
when im in a 'panic situation', i simply freeze and take some time to come back. but this confusion with words happens commonly at unexpecteds times, like -> im playing valheim with friends and im going warn them about making a portal -> 'hey. can you can made you portal thats me' (i had a laugh crisis after that bc in portuguese is way more funny)

i probably have social anxiety, but i think this 'brain melting' is a little more speech problem than social problems... idk
idk...
(sorry i forgor to repond qwq)

but that does sound rather like a speech problem if you have the possibility try seeing a neurologist
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__scripting
301 posts
Joined February 2021
Topic Starter
__scripting

vaaylin wrote:

but that does sound rather like a speech problem if you have the possibility try seeing a neurologist
hmmm nah

lazy
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii

__scripting wrote:

vaaylin wrote:

but that does sound rather like a speech problem if you have the possibility try seeing a neurologist
hmmm nah

lazy
classic scripting moment
Neigdoig
650 posts
Joined May 2021
Neigdoig
Autism is a retardation of understanding social cues for some, but it may be better for others. It all depends on how they were taught, despite living with autism. Otherwise, those with it are much more clueless on social clues than normal people.

I would know, because I have it myself.
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sametdze
339 posts
Joined July 2021
sametdze
sometimes when i say a sentence i usually start dropping on a word i want to say

for example
"hi my name is uhh sa-sa-sam sametdze from the osu! forums"

usually i can break free from my stutters by swearing (autist or australian?) but usually i can't swear because i'm in an enviorment where swearing isn't allowed

for example
"hi my name is fucking sametdze from the osu! forums"
B0ii
591 posts
Joined November 2021
B0ii
wow there are alot of actual autistic people in here (including me)
Gsun
Gsun

Neigdoig wrote:

Autism is a retardation of understanding social cues for some, but it may be better for others. It all depends on how they were taught, despite living with autism. Otherwise, those with it are much more clueless on social clues than normal people.

I would know, because I have it myself.
That actually makes a lot of sense, yeah.
[-Omni-]
960 posts
Joined July 2021
[-Omni-]
i feel like covid made our social skills way worse tbh
anaxii
15,000 posts
Joined December 2022
anaxii

[-Omni-] wrote:

i feel like covid made our social skills way worse tbh
actually it's not really the case anymore XD

covid was 4 years ago so everything's back to normal now
Neigdoig
650 posts
Joined May 2021
Neigdoig

[-Omni-] wrote:

i feel like covid made our social skills way worse tbh
It was scientifically proven to make our social skills much worse. It also made us more aggressive due to what we were forced to do (when most people actually didn't do it, because it was all a ruse). It was highly suspicious of what it was, since nobody could tell us what it was made of (which told us that COVID wasn't what it was chocked up to be).
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