Vyscosity wrote:

You're counting on the idea that he could still have feelings for you because it's normal for him to act like this when upset, alright. Maybe he's not just acting like this, maybe he's completely serious about ending the relationship. (Judging from the chat, I'm pretty sure he's serious, even if you have your doubts)

Has he blocked your before, when upset, before all of this? Is this the first time he's tried to break up with you? (Not just within these days). He's even gone out of his way to supposedly find someone else. Can you confirm he actually did?

Believe me, he would be annoyed with you. You're digging yourself deeper and deeper, stop. You've been with him for 4 years, 4 years in which he could have changed, could have grown to have a different taste, and is finally at a point where he no longer likes who you are.

Loctav wrote:

To be honest on this, I can not agree more with UnderminE and Vyscosity.
He simply do not want anymore. You probably love him more than he does. I actually doubt that he doesn't "like" you anymore, but considering the distance during your relationship, he probably thought about his feelings for a very long time before letting you know. This entire thing might appear not understandable and totally sudden to you, probably because you had an entirely different feeling about this relationship than him (it was still as exciting as it was at the beginning, but this is something from your side, not from his)

If you really want to have a chance and see how serious he is, leave him alone. Respect what he wanted. There are people that unintentionally abuse the fact that certain people return to them no matter what they do. If he really still loves you, as you said, he will realize how bad it was to break up and realizing that you accept it and leave him alone.

It sounds cruel, but you need to make him face the consequences of his decision. And if he doesn't like it, he will return.
If he is fine with it, you know how much sense it has to go on "fighting" - exactly none.

And you must mentally prepare yourself that any result is possible . You can not change people's feelings. You can just find them out and deal with the output. And what I suggested is the best way to find it out and along with it also respecting his decision.

Konkero wrote:

I'm just going to be honest. Lets pretend that Cameron ended up coming back to you. The relationship would be really rocky and awkward with what happened in the past. I've been in this kind of situation before. The relationship will just become cancerous for both of you, and even though the relationship is hard for both parties you still wont want it to end, because you love each other. In the end of my story we both ended up finding an excuse to call it quits, and it was very hard. Neither of us were happy, but we didn't want everything to end.
Sorry

Loctav wrote:

Konkero is right. Your relationship has too many cracks till now, which are almost unfixable even for not long distance relationships.
And why should you say sorry? Did you do anything wrong? Don't put yourself down so much. Ever if, he's the one supposed to say sorry.
Also being able to visit him doesn't fix anything. Maybe the relationship only lasted for so long because you were not able to see each other regularly

AndyBoo wrote:

My plan if we ever got back together would be to finally meet him and tell him how sorry I am in person. For some reason I think it would be a lot easier if I were able to visit him. We wouldn't have to go through the stress of not being able to actually spend time with one another and we probably wouldn't argue as much, if at all.

Loctav wrote:

And who does apologize for him being like this to you?
You are feeling unhappy, too - because he did this. There is no need for you to say sorry - nowhere.
Also it makes you appear even more unwanted to him, because he probably doesn't want you like that, pushing down yourself so much.

Konkero wrote:

Sorting things out face to face has the potential to help i'll agree with that. I think getting him to agree to meet would be a completely separate challenge though.
In my situation we always end up getting back together for brief periods of time in fact we just started talking again after 2 pretty long years. I think you two will have a connection either way for a long time.
In the end a break doesn't really hurt anyone you both end up growing up a lot in the time spent apart, more self improvements etc..

Loctav wrote:

And who does apologize for him being like this to you?
You are feeling unhappy, too - because he did this. There is no need for you to say sorry - nowhere.
Also it makes you appear even more unwanted to him, because he probably doesn't want you like that, pushing down yourself so much.

Seph wrote:

Don't push things that are obviously out of your way, you'll end up hurting yourself more. Things always don't go our way, and its pretty unhealthy for the both of you if you still keep on pushing it the way you want it to be.

Let it go, just think of it as you gave him the chance to find someone better.

Seph wrote:

Don't push things that are obviously out of your way, you'll end up hurting yourself more. Things always don't go our way, and its pretty unhealthy for the both of you if you still keep on pushing it the way you want it to be.

Let it go, just think of it as you gave him the chance to find someone better.

DaddyCoolVipper wrote:

If your relationship isn't working, I don't think either side can be blamed. It's just a fact that you're going to have to live with. Don't resort to begging or guilt-tripping him into being with you from now on, please, as that will only make things worse and make him feel upset about his own feelings that he can't really control.

Loctav wrote:

Or to realize that he made a mistake.
Yet I highly agree here that you, AndyBoo, should let it go and wait. Don't write him, don't even tell him that you will "leave him alone from now", just do it - without any warning.
You are not supposed to say sorry or to explain anything to him. He explained way enough when breaking up with you. Simply let it go and wait.

In German, we also say "Willst du gelten, mach dich selten" - generally meaning that "If you want to be valueable, make yourself rare", a fitting advise for this situation. Simply disappear out of his life and leave a huge hole for him. Up to him, how he wants to get it filled again - not to you.

winber1 wrote:

You probably should have stopped annoying him and taken his friend request offer. Loctav said that you need to make yourself "rare," which is kind of true, but I believe you can't just cut ties completely from him. If you are able to become at least close enough that he unblocks you, then there is hope (for one), and you will at least feel better about youself that he doesn't find you bothersome (to be honest it almost feels like he's starting to hate you now for doing all this). Healing a crack in the relationship like this is not about the speed of the apology or the emotional drama, it's really just about time. You have to give him time to think about what he has done, and honestly I assure you that after a good amount of time, he will probably be in a better mood where you can ask him something without him retaliating completely against you.

At this point, he probably doesn't even want to talk to you, and if you want to get anything through to him, you probably just have to wait. And when you finally do talk to him, you can't add the emotional drama and apologies there either. It really has to be a very serious, formal conversation, yet at the same time distant (not clingy in any way).

As everyone said, at this point, you have to just deal with what has happened. This problem cannot be fixed within these upcoming weeks imo. But, keeping a small little tie to him will keep you happier and better your chances as well.

There really is no best answer, but being getting over cameron, like some have suggested, will probably make you the happiest. It all really depends on what you want. But you should not use your emotions to dictate the route. This matter needs you to think in a calm and practical manner.

Static Noise Bird wrote:

I understand him way more than I understand you. You remind me of my ex, so I've been in your ex's position before; stop, get over it. "Pestering" is only going to make it worse. It's annoying and stupid. You should have given it time, but you already fucked up, so I can't really help anymore.

GladiOol wrote:

I wanted to make a nice post.

But yea

You're a cancerous cunt.

GladiOol wrote:

I wanted to make a nice post.

But yea

You're a cancerous cunt.

GladiOol wrote:

I wanted to make a nice post.

But yea

You're a cancerous cunt.

Loctav wrote:

leave a huge hole for him. Up to him, how he wants to get it filled again - not to you.

UnderminE wrote:

Oh man drama is so strong

CreamLegit wrote:

I am the guy who met between Cameron and the canadian guy "Draculion" (He doesn't play osu! btw so don't even try to find him)
Drac is am amazing guy, he is not a "canadian jerk", he is one of my best friends, I almost commited suicide once but he was there to stop me and help me.
He didn't mean to still Cameron from you, Cameron didn't tell him until 2 days ago, I just let them meet eachother because they seemed to be able to be great friends, and it ended up in more than just friends I guess.
Drac broke up with his boyfriend 3 weeks ago, and ever since then he kept telling me how much he misses being in a relationship and how much he needs a lover, I didn't really think Cameron will be a great lover for him but just could be a great friend for him.
If there is anyone to blame here for this incident, it's me, don't blame it on Drac, he honestly didn't know that and he just wanted love.

AndyBoo wrote:

I mailed a letter to his parents last night asking if they could help because I was so upset and the mailcarrier already stopped by my house today. Soooooooo, good luck Cameron.

DaddyCoolVipper wrote:

"I mailed a letter to his parents last night asking if they could help because I was so upset"

Christ, man. Personal problems should be personal problems.

Agree with elly though

AndyBoo wrote:

DaddyCoolVipper wrote:

"I mailed a letter to his parents last night asking if they could help because I was so upset"

Christ, man. Personal problems should be personal problems.

Agree with elly though

You've obviously never fallen in love. Shit tends to get crazy, especially if you're as cray as me.. o3o

EDIT: Ty everyone for your kind words of wisdom. I've decided to get over all of this and hopefully be a friend to Cameron and nothing more (if we wants to be). I don't know people say the Osu community is bad, there was only like one pseudo troll on this entire thread. You guys rock~