Stefan wrote:
Oh boy why
If you meant Oh boy why - did I lock that thread, there is no such thing as a life without any regrets. Regret is both a feeling and a pattern of thinking where one dwells on or constantly replays and thinks about an event, reactions or other actions that could have been taken. Regrets can become over painful burdens that interfere with your present happiness, cause you grief, and restrict your future. Unproductive regret can also keep you from moving forward. If you find yourself overcome by regrets, identify your feelings of regret, learn to forgive yourself, and move on. All humans feel regret, it is a totally normal thing and I know every night you must ask yourself why you locked such an astonishing and exotic thread, don't beat yourself up about it, I honestly forgive you even though you must not forgive yourself for such doings obviously... Get over the regret be following these simple steps and fulfill your life and achieve happiness.
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Learn what regret is. Regret is a critical way of thinking or feeling in which you blame yourself for things that happened. Though I have just explained this all above and totally did not copy/paste it from various websites, it is still important you learn and understand what it is before you go into #2.
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Identify your feelings of regret. These may be different from person to person, but feelings of regret include: sadness, loss, remorse, anger, shame, and anxiety. Identify these feelings related to regret. For example, you may have the thought of a past deed and then you think about this event for the majority of the day (locking your own fan club). This can leave you feeling defeated and hopeless. You may think about what you did or said, or you may think about what you wished you had done differently to change your current situation.
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Consider where your regret comes from. Think about what's causing your regret. This could involve locking a fan thread of yours or simply locking any thread.
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Use Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT exercises teach you to change your habits and patterns of thinking. You can soon start changing your feelings of regret, shame, and anger. Instead, you'll focus on emotionally healing any harmful, unproductive thoughts you have. Because I feel sorry for you, I have gone out of my way to find a CBT hotline for you, if ever you look back at closing that thread and consider suicide, do not hesitate to call
http://theaddictionhotline.org/tag/cogn ... l-therapy/5.
Write it down your regrets. With regret, people often wonder “why” they acted or didn’t act, and this is often where people become stuck. List your regrets (locking that thread) and any questions you keep asking yourself ("Oh boy why did I lock that thread). For example, you might wonder why you acted the way you did. Go through your list and change the "why" questions into "what's next?" This will help you overcome the feeling of being stuck.
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Learn your lesson. Regrets can be important learning tools for the future. Try to look for the lessons learned and recognize that life lessons make you wiser. For example, you have locked a thread. Try considering your actions before you proceed to committing to them - like suici
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Control how regrets influence your future. While you can not change what happened in the past, you can choose how your past affects your present and future.
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Build empathy for others. You're not the only one feeling regretful about something. Consider what others may be going through. Remember that empathy helps you to better understand the feelings of others. This may require you to challenge your own prejudices and truly listen to others. Talk to other mods that may be suffering from the regret of locking their own fan club, discuss how they overcame this and apply this in your life as well.
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Turn regret into gratitude. You may think about regret in terms of the following statements: "I should have not locked that thread...." "I could have not locked that thread...." "I can't believe I locked that thread...." "Why didn't I not lock that thread....." Change these statements into statements of gratitude. You'll think about the past differently and start to lose the regret. When you catch yourself thinking a regretful statement, change it to a statement of gratitude. This can help you start thinking about the past in a positive light.
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Practice self-forgiveness. Regret can cause resentment towards yourself and others. Instead, learn to forgive yourself. Not only will this reduce your feelings of regret, but it can improve your self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem is critical to many areas of your life, including relationships.
And those are my ways to get through regret. I know you must feel so much gratitude on this post and it affecting you so much in a great way thinking "how can I ever repay you QuillGill?" and to that I say it is alright, I am happy to help you anytime you feel down for nothing in return. Your welcome and have a wonderful day.