well i hope everything works out fineBlue Dragon wrote:
All of my relationships were online. I really don't want to write a wall of text right now, but, from my experience from a teenager who went from just a random kid with no experience on anything, to someone who can actually understand how online relationships should work (ideally, however most of the time this is almost impossible), I've learned that, as dkun said, trust is the most important thing you should have. Not the "no matter what you do I'll trust you", because I've been cheated on many times because of blindly trusting someone. You just have to BE SURE that you found someone who knows how you feel, and wouldn't ever do anything to hurt you, and not just date the first girl you talk for a whole night (sure it can start that way, but trust has to be constructed over time, which probably doesn't happen in less than a week).
I do believe in long-distance relationships. I'm saying this with the biggest certainty I've ever had, because right now, my love (who I met online) is buying the tickets to come here and meet me for the first time. Great timing for this topic, indeed.
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can i hop on the bandwagon where i say love knows no boundaries and that distance shouldn't matter as long as you have patience and trust
personally i prefer long distance because i'd take a shit on everyone here out of pure hatred and anger
they don't come out successfully but you still kinda live with the scars that have been made
it's something you'll never experience if you don't try
personally i prefer long distance because i'd take a shit on everyone here out of pure hatred and anger
they don't come out successfully but you still kinda live with the scars that have been made
it's something you'll never experience if you don't try
dNextGen
My experience says no.
In my 1st relationship she disappeared misteriously, I haven't known nothing about her for more than 2 years and increasing, but I really treasure the time we spent together, we had plans to meet irl and almost managed to, but well, it can't be helped :v.
The 2nd lasted almost one year, we had very similar hobbies and many more things, but then things cooled down, and much, muuuuch, and you already may know what happened next, I'm single again.
Both were in the same country as me though.
But as I have always bad luck, meh, I don't close myself to another LDR.
There are some people that manages to meet irl and all goes very nicely. There are some that doesn't. Just enjoy the moment.
The most important thing in LDR are, as many have said, trust in yourself and your partner and don't lie, never lie, it's the golden rule, as every relationship, also, don't promise anything about meeting irl unless you have the resources to. Don't be afraid, if you really like each other, there will be no regrets and everything will be succesful. If you broke up, well, just try to keep talking and continue your life, don't get butthurt.
In my 1st relationship she disappeared misteriously, I haven't known nothing about her for more than 2 years and increasing, but I really treasure the time we spent together, we had plans to meet irl and almost managed to, but well, it can't be helped :v.
The 2nd lasted almost one year, we had very similar hobbies and many more things, but then things cooled down, and much, muuuuch, and you already may know what happened next, I'm single again.
Both were in the same country as me though.
But as I have always bad luck, meh, I don't close myself to another LDR.
There are some people that manages to meet irl and all goes very nicely. There are some that doesn't. Just enjoy the moment.
The most important thing in LDR are, as many have said, trust in yourself and your partner and don't lie, never lie, it's the golden rule, as every relationship, also, don't promise anything about meeting irl unless you have the resources to. Don't be afraid, if you really like each other, there will be no regrets and everything will be succesful. If you broke up, well, just try to keep talking and continue your life, don't get butthurt.
DakeDekaane wrote:
misteriously
DDDDDDDDDDDDI have no experience of this (and I don't really want to experience it tbh), but the differences between online interaction and genuine, human interaction are enormous. They're so fundamentally different that I don't think it's possible to know or love someone without meeting them. You could know everything about them yet you'd still have no understanding of what they're actually like. And what happens if you finally meet them and they're not the person you thought they were? I'm sorry to judge, but most of what I've seen from people who have been in these kinds of relationships is a very shallow kind of 'playing love'.
99% of them are total crap and no one feels real love for the other. From my experience online relationships give only the illusion of love.
Seph
How are you so sure about that? Did you survey everyone who's on LDRs?Jordan wrote:
99% of them are total crap and no one feels real love for the other. From my experience online relationships give only the illusion of love.
I'm sorry if I'm too positive with this (all of my past relationships failed mind you) but just because one thing doesn't work out for you doesn't mean it won't as well for everyone else. You obviously have no idea how relationships works then.
Imo online relationships are for emotionally strong people only, don't even think of trying if you can't handle extreme stuff like this. Sure you can talk crap about people in LDRs but in the end of the day if it works out, it works out. I don't know why most of you are being so negative about it when its just the same as being in a relationship in real life, except the distance.
ThisSeph wrote:
online relationships are for emotionally strong people only, don't even think of trying if you can't handle extreme stuff like this. Sure you can talk crap about people in LDRs but in the end of the day if it works out, it works out. I don't know why most of you are being so negative about it when its just the same as being in a relationship in real life, except the distance.
dNextGen
my current relationship is an online one, we talk to eachother a lot and like someone else said it is NOT for emotionally weak people. It takes a lot of work but in the end it really is worth it to be honest, but hey its not for everyone.
Better off being in a real relationship, an online one is very limited. But love comes unexpectedly so not like it can be stopped.
i don't get the butthurt for all relationships
As Lolicore said, love comes unexpectedly. and if there is love, the person will be happy until love ends. Maybe he/she will suffer but hey, since when suffering is bad? Just learn from your mistakes and go on.
As i said before, this is not that much different for irl relationships.
Just don't call all of online relationships as fake relationships (which also happens in irl ones) just because it was a bad experience for you
As Lolicore said, love comes unexpectedly. and if there is love, the person will be happy until love ends. Maybe he/she will suffer but hey, since when suffering is bad? Just learn from your mistakes and go on.
As i said before, this is not that much different for irl relationships.
Just don't call all of online relationships as fake relationships (which also happens in irl ones) just because it was a bad experience for you
Seph
HASHTAGBITTERALERT
but yeah try and try until you succeed, right?
if you didn't get it the first try why're you stopping there? that just shows how weak of a person you are
when it didn't go right before then do better at the next, who knows you might get what you've always wanted if you keep on moving
but yeah try and try until you succeed, right?
if you didn't get it the first try why're you stopping there? that just shows how weak of a person you are
when it didn't go right before then do better at the next, who knows you might get what you've always wanted if you keep on moving
#realtalkdNextGen wrote:
this man knows what he is talkin #RespectJordan wrote:
99% of them are total crap and no one feels real love for the other. From my experience online relationships give only the illusion of love.
UnderminE wrote:
Yeah, there are not that much people left who actually play osu! without actually talking to anyone.boat wrote:
osu! is more like adating servicesocializing general.
This awesome guy Had not talked to a single soul since he started playing a year back or so and he's around rank 4k, last week I sent him a PM since he lived "nearby" and now WE'RE BFFS!
Why didn't he? He has no interests in anime/otaku culture or even songs similar to it. Only playing western maps lul.
I also know a few more just here in Sweden who have zero contact with others. Of course they aren't in majority, but still.
My point? There are people who play without talking to others.
My opinion on the whole matter: Try it out if you get the chance. It won't kill you and if you don't have anything better to do (which I know you don't, loser!
), why not give it a try? Chances are you'll have fun and pass your dead time faster. You might get hurt in the end but even so, I think it's worth it. You'll get over it with time no matter what the situation (unless severely extreme yandere shit is going on in your messed up little brain).Pros: Fun
Pass dead time
Experience
A strong relationship no matter how you look at it
Cons: Might end up sad for a while
Go for it!
Since you're so certain of what love actually is, care to explain it for us in detail? What is love? What kind of love is real?Jordan wrote:
99% of them are total crap and no one feels real love for the other. From my experience online relationships give only the illusion of love.
I'm neither for nor against ldrs, but this is silly.
bby dnt hrt miboat wrote:
What is love?Jordan wrote:
99% of them are total crap and no one feels real love for the other. From my experience online relationships give only the illusion of love.
don't huuurt meee
noo mooooore
love is when there are a lot of hearts surrounding you and your aura is pink or somethingboat wrote:
Since you're so certain of what love actually is, care to explain it for us in detail? What is love? What kind of love is real?Jordan wrote:
99% of them are total crap and no one feels real love for the other. From my experience online relationships give only the illusion of love.
I'm neither for nor against ldrs, but this is silly.
I can't explain what love is with words but there is so much difference, from my experience, (my experience, so THAT might be different for you) between falling in love IRL (even with it being unrequited) and having an online relationship. + In most distance relationships, specially if one lives in a different country than the other they know they most likely won't ever meet and, imo, that totally ruins the meaning of a "love relationship". imo.boat wrote:
Since you're so certain of what love actually is, care to explain it for us in detail? What is love? What kind of love is real?Jordan wrote:
99% of them are total crap and no one feels real love for the other. From my experience online relationships give only the illusion of love.
I'm neither for nor against ldrs, but this is silly.
That's better.Jordan wrote:
imo
Then that is simply not love. It only is love when the hopes of staying together with the person in the future actually exist and are higher than the uncertainty of meeting someone.Jordan wrote:
In most distance relationships, specially if one lives in a different country than the other they know they most likely won't ever meet and, imo, that totally ruins the meaning of a "love relationship". imo.
I was in an online relationship and the whole Shelly x Ameir thing happened to me too 8I
Great to talk online, but not okay as fuck in real life
Great to talk online, but not okay as fuck in real life
I believe it can work with 2 mature people who may be far at start but believe it may be possible for them to be together in the future and remove the "online" of it. I've seen cases like that workout from people in almost opposite spots in the globe.
But most cases of "online relationships" are more of shy awkward penguin teens who want to feel loved and will probably look back in embarassment.
But most cases of "online relationships" are more of shy awkward penguin teens who want to feel loved and will probably look back in embarassment.
embarrassing? oh pls my friend said ''I Love u baby so much muach :*" with a straight faces. I've seen people like that.JonnyThatJonny wrote:
But most cases of "online relationships" are more of shy awkward penguin teens who want to feel loved and will probably look back in embarassment.
Don't know if he is serious about their relationship, but he did saying romantic things like that with straight faces. well but sometimes he smiles for a unknown reason. lol
if you are serious in online relationships, you end up living in this song
Maybe you will be with that person in the future, maybe you will have a good experience or suffer. in the end you will move on and it will be a sweet memory after 10+ years.
Maybe you will be with that person in the future, maybe you will have a good experience or suffer. in the end you will move on and it will be a sweet memory after 10+ years.
I chuckled.
<3
References always make it great
References always make it great
Off-Topic but I was watching that movie an hour ago. So kawaii.
But it totally works out just fine if you really put effort into it.
But it totally works out just fine if you really put effort into it.
dNextGen
It's something that won't last.
If two people seriously identify with each other and are realistic, then it ought to last. Of course it's going to be harder when contact is so limited, but that sort of thing can happen in person if one or both of the couple have to travel for their living. I believe that the biggest struggle would be when a pair finally meet each other for a mere few weeks, or had to go long-distance after meeting first, which would make the separation too much to bear for most. That's why I think that these things need to take time and lots of careful planning.
Hell, it's certainly easier to find the ideal partner online, simply because one's scope is so limited within their area. I know nobody in person who would be able to handle half of what I'd confide in them, so I'd have to harbour a lot of damaging secrets. Besides that, I've never met anybody with whom I'd identify enough. That's why I'm happy enough to foster an online relationship until I can meet Jarby, because I know that nobody in my life would compare.
On or off the Internet, people can deceive others very easily and hide their flaws until they feel secure in the relationship. I believe that relationships here fail so much because people have unrealistic expectations or jump on each other impulsively. Aside from that, I know all too well how easy it is to become distracted from a person, with all of this community-based noise. It's not pleasant, but for me, it's worth dealing with it.
Hell, it's certainly easier to find the ideal partner online, simply because one's scope is so limited within their area. I know nobody in person who would be able to handle half of what I'd confide in them, so I'd have to harbour a lot of damaging secrets. Besides that, I've never met anybody with whom I'd identify enough. That's why I'm happy enough to foster an online relationship until I can meet Jarby, because I know that nobody in my life would compare.
On or off the Internet, people can deceive others very easily and hide their flaws until they feel secure in the relationship. I believe that relationships here fail so much because people have unrealistic expectations or jump on each other impulsively. Aside from that, I know all too well how easy it is to become distracted from a person, with all of this community-based noise. It's not pleasant, but for me, it's worth dealing with it.